AIBU?

[User1992]

Every week for the past 6 months I have my friends 2 children 5 and 8 for tea. I have an 8 year old daughter. It is hard work having them but I do enjoy having them but I'm also taking them to beavers after the tea and it is exhausting a little as I'm a single parent myself. The problem is if I ask the mum to take over taking them to beavers I know mum may not be able too as she has a baby and I don't want to let the kids down as they love coming for tea and going to beavers and I would be really upset for them not to carry on going. My daughter says she would rather have the children more occasionally than every week but I feel now I've agreed I can't stop having them as its not fair on the children.

You sound like a lovely caring person

There was a kid at my son’s old school, he came round a few times. He liked the attention, our routines, our food etc. He wasn’t neglected by his parents, he just preferred ours! My ds was never invited to theirs. I did pick up, drop off.

His parents were piss takers, took advantage. I had to draw the line when they would allow their 6 year old to use their phone to phone me and ask to come round all the time. Trying to guilt trip me!

The balance of this ‘friendship’ was very one sided. Don’t do it, if it causes resentment.

Could you not take it week about?

I think they are taking advantage a little as I wouldn't let another mum do that for my daughter I would want to take her myself and I enjoy taking her. I don't think they are neglected as they seem happy just they got get the effort from their parents the same as some other parents do. Their house isn't great for the kids as both parents smoke inside so I wouldn't want my daughter to go there as the childrens clothes smell of stale cigarette smoke. I wouldn't want to say anything to school as they are looked after just the parents don't want to make any effort apart from the basics like taking them to school but they are clean for school apart from the clothes smelling of cigarettes and I know they get breakfast.

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