My MIL has had a shit Mother’s day

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I actually love my mil.

She is a hard working head of a socially deprived school and is on her last year before retirement. She has given many decades to Childrens education and is a fantastic role model to my DS.

My DH planned nothing for her this mother’s day. We both work full time, earn our own spending money and we normally take both our mums out separate and or together on mother’s Day. And often have a lovely meal together. This year I don’t think he has even been to see her.

I am very disappointed in him. I would of gone to see her, but my mum works even longer hours than her, (in retail magenent) lives miles away and she had a rare day off so me and DS went to to her. My mil sees our DS twice a week and my Mum will be lucky twice a month.

he hasn’t been the same for a while and this is unusual for him. He has just had a promotion at work and now works in an all female team...

He went “out” on Friday and came home blind drunk, he has been hungover all weekend and secretive of his phone.

Is this all related? It probably is isn’t it? He is a last minute grab some hotel chocolate kind of guy but even this weekend he hasn’t done anything..

My gut is, he is feeling very guilty about something, and can’t face me or his mum (oh he has been avoiding me)

He sounds like a real catch....

Have you just asked him why he's behaving like an asshole?

Do you think he could have cheated?

I'm actually not sure you should be worried about the MIL at all.

Can’t offer help on the OH. But can you send your mil a text or call her to wish her a late mother’s day tomorrow whilst your DS is with you, just to cheer her up and maybe get her a bunch of flowers later in the week

If you have a DS then you must be a mother too so why wasn't he focusing on your Mother's day anyway. It isn't your MIL's rubbish day that would be bothering me in this situation.

Sounds like you need to move this to the relationships board.

"so why wasn't he focusing on your Mother's day anyway."

Because she is not his mother?

BertrandRussell no bit she is the mother of his son who is presumably a minor.

My DH made sure I had a lovely day and sent his mum a card. I don't think that is odd. It's seems odder to me that in a family where a couple have DC the focus of Mother's day is still on their own mothers not her role as a mum to their DS.

If he's avoiding you and his mother and your gut is telling you there is a reason for that then listen to it.

Did he sort anything for your DS to give you or does he not bother?

I've maybe read one too many cheater threads on Relationships, but my first thought was he got up to something he shouldn't on Friday night and the guilt means he can't deal with you or his Mum - she can possibly read him well and know if he's hiding something/lying?
Really hope it's not OP but I would be keeping your eyes and ears open.

I think go with your gut feeling, he's done something that he is embarrassed by. If he was blind drunk, then chances it isn't full blown cheating.

I can read my ExH like a book as it turns out and knew when he was cheating on his 2nd wife before she did. It was on his face.

I think you're - sadly - on to something, OP. And I'm very sorry because it's awful to feel like this.