Curious to know other’s opinions on this...
Not going into the specific details incase it outs me but a few years ago a close friend was put in a position of trust & ended up stealing a large sum of money from me (tens of thousands). This happened at a time I was in a vulnerable place & she knew my mind was distracted by other issues (close family members gravely sick)
When I found out I confronted her and she admitted it but refused to pay me back. I had to involve police & agreed to settle out of court for a small fraction of the money because she is a mother of 5 & I didn’t want it splashed over the paper for their sake.
Her DP got in touch and claimed he knew nothing about it and was extremely apologetic and devastated etc (although I suspect it may have been her using DPs phone). The police did say when they went to confront & question her at her house they thought she was alone as they questioned her for several hours and no one else came into the room. But as as they were leaving they seen DP come out of an adjoining room where he had been sitting listening the whole time ...personally I find it weird if he genuinely didn’t know that he wasn’t out all guns blazing defending his wife.
But anyway in the few years afterwards her DP has sent me the occasional message firstly asking how I am. He did make a point of letting me know that it was him that paid the money back. I might have sent one short message back out of courtesy but that’s it as it made me feel uncomfortable. This week he contacted me same way but then asked if I found him attractive. Needless to say I never replied & never will.
I think he’s either a creep & karma is obviously a bitch (wouldn’t want to be ex friend) or that he thinks I owe him something. But everybody else thinks him/her are perhaps trying to blackmail me to extort some of the cash back. Not that it really matters as I have no intention of replying to him ever again but it would make feel uneasy if I thought someone was trying to do something like that.
What do MNers think?