To hate FIFA!

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It's an ongoing frustration, but today I'm struggling to keep my cool thanks to pregnancy hormones...
So, my DH has an on/off relationship with FIFA on the PS4. When he is playing it he does it obsessively. There's this weekend league that he plays, so needs to win over a certain number of games over the weekend to qualify for the next weekend. This would be fine (kind of) except that the PS4 is in the sitting room, and only real living area in the house, so I'm stuck having it in the background while I do my work. It wouldn't be so bad if he wasn't getting angry while playing, cursing at the screen, and snapping at me and our DS's. It puts him in a horrible mood, and gets me on edge and snappy too. Ironically our DS's have been banned from their console as a result of similar behaviour, which makes me angry. My parenting style is setting an example, while his appears to be 'do as I say not as I do'.

To add to this I have bad PGP and can barely walk, so struggling with housework. Today was his perfect opportunity to help, but he's played for approx 5 hours. The cot has been sat waiting to be assembled for 2 weeks. I can't sort the house till I have the storage space in the nursery, and the DC's room is full of boxes. I can't build it thanks to limited mobility from PGP... I could scream. Now he's so annoyed with fifa he's had a tantrum and gone to gym leaving me to sort the house and the boys bedtime.
So cross.
His argument is that he doesn't go out drinking so this is his one vice.
Am I being a hormonal cow, or is my frustration justified???

Well, he says he'll get it done next weekend... I guess it's about priorities. He's still not put away clean clothes I washed a week ago, and the pile is blocking my cupboard door. It's a 10 min job. But 5 hours on Fifa is totally reasonable and I'm being a hormonal nag

Fifa (for a change) is not the issue. But then you know that already so you don't need advice here.

Unfortunately @user1471517900 it is fifa that's the issue. He didn't play it for a month over xmas and was a different person. Helpful, affectionate, calm... it's amazing the effect that game has...

I think User was making the point that the game is not responsible for your DH's behaviour; he is choosing to play it for 5 hours, therefore you have a man problem, not a game problem....

It sounds like you're in a relationship with a teen. You need to draw the line now or you'll be doing all the jobs yourself AND looking after a newborn and DC while he's playing virtual football!

Games are never the problem. This is absolutely about your husband. If he insists on playing it like a teenager, I suggest he’s does it ot in the same vain - in the bedroom, door closed so no one has to hear him.

As for the chores, stop washing his clothes then. Don’t say anything, so you’re not ‘nagging’ - he’s perfectly capable of doing things without being told (and can find out the hard way).

@EdmundCleverClogs stopping doing washing is an interesting idea! If that washing isn't away by tonight I'll try it...

My DH is like this, the weekend league is the bane of my life, not that he doesn't play for hours every single day. We are moving next weekend and he has done zero to help pack or organise stuff for the move because of 'needing' to play FIFA. It's been like this for over a year, stopping doing washing etc didn't help, just made more work for me when I can't stand the mess anymore because crockery piling up and not having clean clothes to wear doesn't bother him. And yes I've done 99% of parenting since our DC was born because he is a lazy shit. I'm currently getting my ducks in a row to leave, you can't change him if he doesn't want to change, my DH doesn't and I can't live like this anymore. He has stolen the enjoyment of having a baby from me and I couldn't resent him more to be honest.

@leavemealoneimlonely I know exactly how you feel. My DH has been playing for years, but he has a love/hate relationship with it so I get the occasional month or two of having a lovely husband, which lulls me into a false sense of security... I think part of the problem is that all the people at his work play it, and they all have families too. Some play it more than him, so it makes him feel like this behaviour is normal.