AIBU to say Mother's Day next year...

[mrspapalazarou]

...I am not leaving the house to visit either mother or mil? Already stressed out trying to get ready to leave house to spend reasonable amount of time with mil before going onto mothers for the afternoon, ensuring that we take everything we need for the whole day. I've got 2 young kids, isn't this supposed to be my day too? Why is it such a stress? Grrrr!!

I think that’s fair enough. Maybe if they’re local suggest dh goes to his mum with Kids for breakfast while you lie in?

Have them both round to lunch and your DH cooks. That’s what we’re doing.

Those are great ideas! I'll remember them next year

Yes, invite them both to yours!

My MIL lives abroad so don't have these issues but if she were here we'd just invite everyone to ours for Mother's Day/birthdays/Christmas etc

Or if nobody wants to cook all go out for lunch together somewhere local to all. That's what we do and it means there's enough people around to keep the kids entertained

We always visit on the Saturday so that Mother’s Day is for me. Both my mum and mil are happy with this.

Totally YANBU. Yes, grown-ups should get their mums a card and a small gift, and have a phone conversation... but mother's day is a day for small kids to be nice to their mum. It's your day much more than it is DM or MIL's day. DM and MIL need to grow up a little and stop expecting their adult children to behave like 8-year-olds. This is getting like Halloween and World Book Day - an invented tradition that's becoming a burden because a handful of adults want to make a huge deal of it.

p.s. Mother's Day is mother's day, not grandmother's day.

We had my mil (and fil) over for dinner on Friday, gave mil gifts and went to visit my mum with a gift yesterday. So today is a relaxing Sunday for me.

I'm already wishing I'd thought of that last year. Driving for hours to go out for a meal that's going to be fucking horrendous.

Sonething completely different next year.

Fuck cooking

I cook every day

We are going out for lunch with my DC and my mum. She’s driving here at the mo

The worst thing is I know everyone would be fine about seeing us on different days, so why don't I think to organise it? I guess in a year I forget how bad it is - a bit like childbirth!

Mom-to-be due in 35 days. Won't get the option really - my DM birthday is on the 10th March and my MIL birthday is on the 11th March which is obviously MD this year. This year is MIL 60th as well so we are out to a big dinner tonight with friends and family to celebrate as she also recently retired and obviously is away to become a grandmother soon. Spent the day with DM and DSF yesterday. Next year DM's birthday will be MD followed by MIL birthday the day after so won't even get to celebrate my first proper MD. DP did get me a card, bath stuff and a tea towel this morning though which was lovely.

Just say no