To be a little jealous of (lighthearted)

[Italwaysworksitselfout]

People who get completely spoiled on their birthdays? It was my birthday yesterday and I got yet another half dead bunch of flowers from the garage and a trip to Tesco to do the weekly shop. Dh went to bed at 9 pm and I'm sitting here thinking WTF, my birthday was a Saturday this year and I'm sitting here watching The Vicar of Dibley on my own with the dog.......Cant really complain though, I did get a Burger King for my meal out

Oh god I get narky if anyone remembers mine!

So...you have the half dead flowers, shopping, are well fed, DH peacefully asleep, tv entertainment and no drama?? Not too bad!

Happy birthday and perhaps have a wild one next year :)

I’d be upset aswell op. I’m not high maintenance and would be happy with a card a small thoughtful cheap gift and a nice home cooked meal. I think it shows a lack of though and consideration from your day.

That's kind of sad.

Happy Birthday anyway OP.

On here, most people seem to liken wanting to be made of fuss of you on your birthday as being similar to wanting to sell your children into slavery and prostitution.

Which makes me sad, because I like to be made a fuss of on my birthday (don't expect it at other times, but I see my birthday as special. So if it falls on a w.end, for example, I would expect to be allowed a lie-in). I also like to make a fuss of people I love on theirs.
But I'm at odds with MN on this one.

However, if you look at the NUMEROUS threads at the moment of people who expect to be made a fuss of on mother's day, I don't think they can really argue it. I don't believe in MD, and it won't be marked in this house. I'll mention it to DM, but that's as far as it'll go.

p.s. Happy birthday . A small fuss to you from me.

Treat yourself to something nice today, it's still your birthday weekend so if you can do something to make it special tomorrow.

You got a BurgerKing? No need to show off about your fancy meals!

Happy birthday!

Aww thank you for your Birthday wishes. I've never moaned at my birthday not being made a fuss of but as it was a Saturday I thought it may have been a bit more rock n roll....Tesco was interesting though...we actually got a loaf of bread at last

Yeah I still remember the surprise when milk appeared on the shelves again.

Hopefully Sunday will be nice and you'll have to say next year you want more excitement! (Assume DH was tired from work)

Aw, Happy Birthday Italways
Hopefully you’ve got loads more ahead of you. Some will be a bit shit and some will be wonderful.
Mind you, I’m enjoying the fact that DH has left me in some charge of Netflix for a change. Don’t knock it!

On the one hand, it's a bit humdrum/normal rather than being made to feel super special.
On the other hand - assuming that DH is a lovely man - that actually sounds really cosy and comfy. It may not be exciting, but a life where you have food, love, safety etc is one that's good to live. As unexciting as it is, your birthday sounds like a day that the majority of people in this world can only dream of.

Perhaps next year your DH could push the boat out and have an ice cream as well Burger King?

It's not over yet. Can you go somewhere for fancy cake or afternoon tea tomorrow. Even if you have to organise it yourself? I'm still being petty and childish about my last birthday so I'm feeling pretty sheepish.

YANBU.

It's one day in the year, just one.

From now on organise your own birthday.
Set the standard. Have fun. Do nice things. Life is too short!

Happy birthday

Happy Birthday Op! xxx

@Italwaysworksitselfout

YANBU. I would be royally pissed off.

I am willing to bet you make a LOT more fuss of everyone, than they do of you?

Time to start treating them the same. A bunch of almost dead carnations and a 29p card for your husband next birthday. If your husband suggests doing something for his birthday when it comes around, be busy.

Do you have kids?

Another thought is this...arrange something yourself. My friend got sick of her husband always booking a trip away for his birthday (for the 2 of them!) in mid June, every year (and booking a meal for wherever they were.) Yet he was always at work for her birthday, and too tired to go out (or on shift at work in the evening.)

So last year, she TOLD him they are going to Rome for a long weekend (Fri-Mon) for her birthday (which was on the Saturday,) and he said 'but I am at work Friday and Monday, and she said 'BOOK IT OFF THEN- I AM!')

When he said he 'probably couldn't,' she said 'fine!' and booked herself on it. He was incensed and upset and hurt, that she would go without him (I mean just how DARE she?) So a few days after she booked herself on the trip, he booked the days off, and begged asked her if he could come, with a look on his face.

So maybe that is an option next time?

Happy birthday by the way...

Tippz he sounds like a total tool. I like your friends style though!!

@Slynetylor

Yeah I thought what she did was brilliant!

She is doing the same this year too, and he will be going obvs!

I think he is just a bit narrow minded and thoughtless and a tad selfish, and she needed to do what she did. Opened his eyes a bit to what a twat he was being!!!