Hi, I wonder if you ladies can advise me please, my dearest friend found a lump in her breast just over a week ago, I insisted that she went to the Drs (last Monday) and went along with her to hold her hand and to make sure she went.
She initially asked me to check that it was definitely there and not a figment of her imagination as she didn’t want to waste the Drs time, there wasn’t a lump as such but a a thickening within the Breast tissue which was rather large, approximately the size of a cocktail sausage. During the examination with the Dr she was told that they would refer her to the Breast clinic just to be sure and she was told it could be a cyst, I thought this was rather strange as a cyst is generally round or slightly oval in shape.
I also had breast cancer 9 years ago and again mine wasn’t a lump but a thickening of the tissue, my friends is definitely bigger than mine was and I’m so worried, her appointment came through and it’s next Friday, I’m going along with her as she hasn’t mentioned any of this to her husband as he has his own very serious health issues and is a worrier so she doesn’t want him to fret and possibly become ill and end up in hospital or even worse. Now from my own experience I know they will tell her if they think it is breast cancer, I should know what to say and be able to support her but I’m really concerned that I may crumble as she means so much to me.
Please can any of you give me any words of wisdom on how best to support her and what I should or shouldn’t say... part of me wants to prepare her for the worst but the last thing I want to do is to increase her concerns so think it best not say anything.
Thanking you all in advance.