To be really struggling with hitting forty.

[Midge1978]

Genuine post. I'm 40 in a few months time and it's hitting me hard. I know it's just a number but it's a milestone that's making me realise a few things. I'm happily married with a wonderful child who says I'm the best mum in the world and I'm so grateful for that but when I look at myself as a person I feel disappointed.

I guess I just haven't had very much fun or adventure, I've gone from dead end job to dead end job and never succeeded in my dream of being a writer. I used to be told I'm pretty but now I look in the mirror and I look old and scruffy and overweight. Although I don't want another man, I find it hard to face the fact that no man would fancy me anyway. I have hardly any friends due to my chronic shyness so even if I wanted a 40th party I'd have no-one to invite. To top it off my sil is 40 this month and there's lots of pics of her on Facebook having celebration after celebration with her gazillions of friends and looking impossibly perfect.

I think back to my twenty year old self and feel I've let her down. Has anyone felt like this when hitting a milestone and did you manage to come to terms with it?

Midge1978 Just here will be turning 67 this year! Never got enough time for all the things i have on the go never mind retirment and all that too boring work is for me far more fun:)

Gives me a purpose in life and i feel alive!.

Never mind all you 40 50 odd somethings might find a lovely lady to team up as soon as i get a moment!.

Midge - you can do most whatever you want if you want to thats all there is to it, its an attiude thing do go take the bull by the horns and just do it.

OK all sounds a wee bit OTT but a lot came about becuse of a life threating accident some years ago this for me is Time i'd never thought I'd have, it does change the mindset not suggesting anyone else almost pops their clogs but it does give you a different slant on things:)

Op, I wrote a novel under similar enough circumstances. If you want to do it you can!

No Languid. YesItsMeIDontCare is Leroy's slave. Weeds has another looky-likey and so do I. She's great company

Oh haha, I'll learn them all eventually :)