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AIBU to think that it's totally unacceptable to try and open the front door of someone else's holiday cottage as you walk past ?

19 replies

TamzinGrey · 10/03/2018 21:31

DH and I are staying in a holiday cottage which has a footpath right outside the front door. We love it here, and this is the fourth time we've stayed. It's very picturesque, and a famous (recently deceased) actor used to stay here, which may, or may not be relevant.

The front door has a lever type handle which can be opened from the outside without a key unless it is locked from within. We've learned from experience to keep it locked at all times.

The footpath is very busy and every single day we hear people trying our door handle. Usually we hear this happen about twice a day, but, bearing that we're not actually inside the cottage all of the time, it could be more frequent.

On one occasion last year I happened to be standing right next to the door when the familiar rattling started. I was able to unlock the door quickly, and threw it open to be faced by a CF woman who said, bold as brass, "I know it's a bit cheeky, but would you mind if I had a look round? I'd really love to see what it's like inside". I sent her packing.

This is really getting on our nerves. It's difficult to confront people as by the time we've extracted ourselves from the comfy sofas, made our way to the front door and unlocked it, they're usually disappearing round the corner. DH wants to start leaving the door unlocked when we're downstairs, so that we can see what happens if they actually manage to get themselves inside. I would like to find a way of connecting the door handle to the electricity supply.

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Barbaro · 10/03/2018 21:34

That is very rude of people, but definitely don't leave it unlocked. You could have some weirdo walking in, and let's face it, if they think it's OK to walk into someone else's house who they don't know without permission they are weird.

Birdsgottafly · 10/03/2018 21:35

Is it your cottage?

I would change the door handle, or if not inform the Owners.

Definitely don't leave the door unlocked.

abigailsnan · 10/03/2018 21:36

Seeing that you have stayed there previously I would next time I stayed would make myself a notice that said "beware of the dog" or "the occupant bites" and bluetack it on the front door, this should do the trick.
How rude are some people !!

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 10/03/2018 21:37

YANBU.

"İ know it's a bit cheeky".
A bitfucking cheeky. It's down right brazen. You must have shat yourself when you saw a face staring at you. I'd have had kittens.

Ginger1982 · 10/03/2018 21:37

Could you put a wee sign up when you're staying to discourage folk?

Member984815 · 10/03/2018 21:37

This happened me when we stayed in a holiday home , I think it's very annoying it was mostly staring in the window when we would stare back they would quickly walk away . So rude but not as annoying as when husband's aunt stayed there and someone walked straight in and started looking around .

SimplySwimming · 10/03/2018 21:40

Definitely relevant about the famous actor IMO.

I would imagine people think it's unoccupied...no one in their right mind would try and enter if they thought there were people inside (or certainly very few, not multiple per day).

Put a sign on the door saying the cottage is occupied/private/other reason.

Rainbunny · 10/03/2018 21:41

I understand your rage but I'm incredibly curious as to who this famous actor was? Presumably people trying to enter the house for a look around are fans of this actor but that's still weird!

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 10/03/2018 21:41

I wouldn't find it so much annoying more shitifying.

Oooeeeerrrrrindeed · 10/03/2018 21:44

People are complete CF with interesting buildings.
My PIL live in an historic building that is privately owned by them (not National Trust or such) very notable and distinctive in the town it is in. It has been briefly on tele etc.
People knock on the door and demandask for tours, tap on the windows, stand at the window at point at things inside. As well as taking pictures etc. One lady argued with the MIL that they "should allow access as it's local history" and a "disgrace" that it wasn't public etc. I'd hate staying or living there if I'm honest.

MereDintofPandiculation · 10/03/2018 21:51

I think a lot of people would take the chance to sneak a look into an unoccupied holiday cottage, for pure curiosity, or to see if they'd like to stay there themselves next time. And because they're only taking one look, they probably don't realise that 4 other people have already done the same that day.

Rainbunny · 10/03/2018 21:51

OP is this cottage in Norfolk by any chance? (not the point of this thread but I'm strangely curious as to this actor...)

LanguidLobster · 10/03/2018 21:55

Just keep it locked and put up a sign saying 'private property - do not disturb'.

It's really rude!! That would have me flinging my tea across the room in fright if the door suddenly started getting rattled.

Can you put a candle/lamp in the window to make it look more occupied? Milk bottles outside?

Akire · 10/03/2018 21:56

I would be tempted to leave door open then make
A citizens arrest when they walk in. They must be burglars why else would you enter a house univited!

Alabama3 · 10/03/2018 22:08

is there a blue plaque up? who was the actor?

(no helpful advice, except keep the door locked)

PinkBuffalo · 10/03/2018 22:23

That's a bit bizarre! I thought from your title people were just mistaking the cottage amongst several. To do it deliberately though!
Why are people so weird?
Definitely don't keep the door unlocked!

TamzinGrey · 10/03/2018 22:24

Thanks for the advice everyone. The cottage doesn't belong to us so we can't change the door handle or fix notices up. We have previously reported the problem to the owner and suggested a Yale lock instead of a handle but they haven't bothered to change it. I don't want to say where the cottage is, or who the actor was, as we're actually there at the moment, but I'd be happy to divulge this after we get back home if anyone is still interested. He was famous in the 60/70s but not so well known nowadays.

Not in Norfolk.

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headintheproverbial · 11/03/2018 08:34

I don't think anyone was suggesting a permanent sign, but surely you can tack / tape something up. Over the handle of necessary.

If the cottage is historic it might not be that the owners 'haven't bothered' but that the handle is much more in keeping with the look of the house.

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 11/03/2018 08:38

Some of them probably are trying to steal stuff tbh. Holiday cottages are probably great places to nick handbags, ipads etc from. The historical connection just makes a handy excuse.

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