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To be ignoring a relative because they drain me

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Tumbleweeds24 · 10/03/2018 19:06

I've NC'd for this because I'd feel awful if she ever came across this and knew it was me.

A relative of mine is driving me bonkers, she is in general a lovely person and I love her to bits.. but she's so full and overbearing I find myself feeling mentally drained by the volume of contact both on the phone and in person. There's always something she wants help with, never financial and always practical things but as a single parent to a young baby I'm getting frustrated with her constant requests for me to go over or be on the phone for 15 plus minutes twice a day talking about whatever it is today.

I've found myself ignoring her calls the past few days and I feel bad for doing so, I want to say something in a sensitive way but I know she will be offended and feel guilty for the fact i feel put upon. I've already mentioned several times how I'm really busy looking after baby but she seems oblivious. Shes not lonely she has more friends than i do.

Aibu to be ignoring her for the sake of my sanity?

OP posts:
Mumminmum · 10/03/2018 19:13

YANBU. You said you were busy. She ignored it. Now you ignore her. It is a natural consequence of her actions.

toocool4cats · 10/03/2018 22:58

If you can't bring yourself to tell her how she is making you feel then ignoring is the next best thing but you will have to have that conversation sometime. If you ignore for long enough she will probably stop contacting you, but is that really what you want?

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