To ask what kind of father...

[ThisLittleKitty]

Doesn't wish their own child happy birthday! It's my sons 4th brthday today and his so called "father" hasn't even bothered to wish him happy birthday (he knows my address so could send a card) just disgusted really. It's the day after his own birthday. He is NC through choice but surely it's just normal to want to wish your own child happy birthday??

He is NC through choice

^^ that's your answer. He's NC, not NC except for birthdays. If he did call, you'd be calling him all the wankers under the sun for upsetting your child and not visiting.

He's obviously NC for a reason. Does he pay CM?

No he doesn't pay maintenance but that's another story as he never will as his managed to successfully get away with it. I wouldn't have slagged him off if he did contact my son but thanks for your comment.

An awful shit father. I'm so sorry for you and your son. I know this isn't really a surprise given he's NC though. And honestly it's best he not dip in just to ruin special occasions. That would be worse in the long run. Hope you had a lovely day.

Happy Birthday to DS wine for you

It's shit, sorry to say if he is like this now, he will always be like it.

My bday today, very late 30's. Normally my dad will send wishes the week before, few days after or not at all. Just to be a twat.

Today I should be grateful I did get a card, he 'forgot' to put my name in it though.

I've tried to never let his twatishness get to me.

Yeh your right dipping in and out isn't good at all. I guess it's because my dad wasn't around growing up but he always sent a birthday and Xmas card without fail. So that's probably why it surprises me, thanks for the bday wishes

Aw happy birthday to your little boy. 4 year olds are gorgeous sorry his father is such a twat.

Better to have no father than one who only pops in to say happy birthday and remind you what a POS he is.

Sorry, OP. My DP's father is like this - he left when the kids were little, never showed much interest, and has only been a Facebook friend since DP was about 15 (well, fb wasn't around then, but you know what I mean!). He hasn't bothered to send even a shitty gif or something, not when we had DC, not at Christmas, not on birthdays (and the kicker is, they have the exact same birthday!!!). I just don't get it.

Hope your little boy has a fab birthday - he doesn't need a useless shitbag like that to spoil it anyway.

It's awful that he is choosing not to have contact. But that's the issue here - not that he has chosen not to contact your lovely DS on his birthday. If he's a rubbish dad then it's actually better that he doesn't send a card. So please don't waste your emotion on feeling sad about his dad's absence on his birthday. Just feel proud of what a good job you are doing on your own.

To ask what kind of father....

No kind of father. A father changes nappies, cuddles away nightmares, and provides.

No kind of man. Just a boy who happens to be a gene donor to your son. Set the CSA on him, if you haven't already, then do your best to forget him.

Well he's nc by choice, he doesn't care.

I turned 21 last year and my dad popped round. Didn't wish me happy birthday or even get me a card and it's been like it since I turned 19. It's my birthday next week and I'm not expecting anything.
He isn't a father to your son and your son has everything he needs in you ♥

He's NC, why are you surprised?

It would be cruel to your DS if he was NC but sent a birthday card every year. How would you even explain it?

He made his choice.

Like I said my father wasn't around growing up but we always we Xmas and birthday cards, there wasn't anything to explain and it didn't confuse us. He only saw him 2 months ago anyway so he hasn't exactly forgot about him. But I suppose it means he doesn't give a damn at all just feel sorry for my son really to have such a horrible father.