To have 'gone off' having a baby? Does the feeling come back?!

[HarrietKettle]

I'm 32 so not a spring chicken but am aware I have a few years grace (I know that's not a given)

At the start of last year I was going a bit crazy with the idea of having a baby. We are in no position to have one yet (still saving for a house, I've just started a new job, we're planning a wedding) it was quite a big source of amusement to DP and my close freinds that I wouldn't stop 'going on' about wanting to start a family.

And the feeling has almost completely dwindled from 'we-must -crack-on-I-want-a-lovely-tiny-baby to 'that sounds nice, one day'

Is that weird?! I thought once the clock ticked off that was it, not that the clock would slow down.

I still like children and babies a lot (I'm a nanny and my charges are pretty small so it'd be strange if I didn't) but the feeling of I WANT ONE NOW had really disapitated. Will it come back? I feel like at this point I'd be happy to leave it for a good four years but don't want to push my luck fertility wise. How do you know if you really want one?

Be prepared to swing back and forth until you actually do it. Totally normal!

You don't need to really want a baby to have a child. If you want children you will need to have a baby at some point unless you decide to foster or adopt. Lost of people make a pragmatic decision about the timing, it's not all hormones and broody cluck cluck

I had 3 by aged 35
Aged 43 I meet my now husband 3 years ago I had my Mirena coil removed to Ttc I did not want more children at all ever so I must of had a funny 5 mins
I had a miscarriage
Fell immediately twins
Had hemorghing
Lost one at 2 months pregnant then got sepsis 5 at 5 monyhs kist the other then had months hemorghing
Intensive care
11 blood transfusions
5 months bedrest
Tons medication

I wish I’d stuck to the never tbh

Sounds like hormones to me, listen to your head !

I went through one insanely broody phase that lasted about two years. Actual twinges and longing every time I saw a baby or bump.

I woke up one morning and it was like the switch had been turned off. That was theee years ago, and haven’t felt at all broody since.

Well, that's a relief to be honest. I could do with the 'ticking' staying quiet for a few years from a practical point of view.

meme that sounds awful.

We started trying Jan 2017. No joy. I've gone from quite fancying it to "Well, guess I'll just not go back on the pill but at the same time crack on with life as normal." So, yeah. Feel ok either way. I'm 33.

To be honest I will be glad when I am not on the pill anymore! 17 years in now. I don't know what effect it has with how soon you actually conceive.

I think it varies. In my case, it could be that as I'm still not regular, or the pill could have been masking existing issues!

I remember being totally going off the idea when I got pregnant first time. Felt very weird about the whole thing throughout pregnancy. Swung wildly from reading everything I could, booking a homebirth etc to not buying anything at all for the baby until 1 week before my due date.

I think it's quite a normal feeling.