My DH works in IT, quite senior and doing very well. Separate to his full time job, he occasionally does some freelance teaching for an IT training service. The courses that he teaches are a week long, in London, all expenses are paid and he gets paid to do them (not much). Teaching these courses has given him some kudos in his field, but he's now quite senior in his role and the teaching wouldn't necessarily impress recruiters in the same way now that it did when he was lower down the ladder. He enjoys doing it, and catches up with friends every night when he's finished for the evening.
Before we had DC I was happy for him to go off and do these courses, although I missed him. But since we had DC I'm getting increasingly irritated and bitter that I'm expected to provide childcare while he goes off for a week on an unnecessary trip. He's due back from a course tonight and I'm exhausted. We have one DC who has a disability, and she hasn't been sleeping well, and I'm pregnant and feel like shit.
We are very equal partners at home, and DH does a lot with DD when he's home, although he does work long hours, so I am primary carer. I rely on him, and he relies on me, and we are a good team.
I am resentful of him using up a week of A/L to go teach, when I feel we should spend holiday time together as a family. I am resentful of being expected to provide childcare for what I feel is essentially a lovely working jolly. We do argue because he wants to do more and more of these courses, and i find it unfair. I rarely get time off home life, and certainly never for a week. He doesn't travel much for his FT job, but if he did of course i wouldn't mind stepping up, as his job is our main source of income.
Please be gentle, I'm fucking tired. AIBU to be pissed off about this, and ask that he refrains from these courses while we have small children?