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AIBU to be upset

13 replies

KylieOlive · 10/03/2018 14:10

I live in Aberdeen with my son and husband. I am from Australia so i have no close friends or family here. I have been living here for 3 years. My husband works offshore on rotation so i am alone a lot of the time. I dont expect anything from my husbands family ( both dad and mum live in aberdeen) but would sometimes like some consideration.

My sister in law lives in Glasgow and has my MIL drive down every week to look after her kids 2 days a week which means we don't really see MIL a lot, which is fine. Its her decision. But i sometimes get really hurt that they never think to include me in things knowing i am alone. Prime example , i found out that my SIL has organised a brunch for mothers day tomorrow with my MIL, her MIL, her SIL ( who i get along with really well) and her SIL's mother in law. AIBU to be upset to have not been invited? Not even a "I know you are by yourself with LO, you are more than welcome to join us"? This happens a lot, even on Xmas when my husband is away. Luckily OH dad and step mum always invite me for xmas at theirs otherwise i would be alone.

OP posts:
endofthelinefinally · 10/03/2018 14:17

No YANBU.
That is cruel and thoughtless behaviour.
What does your DH say about it?
Is there a back story?

expatinscotland · 10/03/2018 14:20

They sound mean. YANBU.

GreenTulips · 10/03/2018 14:22

That's really thoughtless

Did you say anything?

Lifeisabeach09 · 10/03/2018 15:14

Agree with PPs. Thoughtless and inconsiderate.
Sorry to hear, OP.
Are you a SAHM? If so, maybe, a job will help you meet people.
[Flowers]

Lifeisabeach09 · 10/03/2018 15:14
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MamanfromOz · 10/03/2018 16:30

No real backstory. MIL makes digs about me spending time with FIL and Step MIL but i do because they are the only ones who invite me.
DH has a problem with his mum helping his sister out all the time. He thinks i should have invited myself.
Yes i am a SAHM. I have been trying to get a job for ages. I am in Aberdeen where the oil downfall hit really bad. So jobs are scarce.
Glad to hear i ANBU. I was thinking maybe i am being over sensitive

VladmirsPoutine · 10/03/2018 16:32

NC fail OP?

Yanbu. It's inconsiderate.

Olddear · 10/03/2018 16:40

No yanbu. They are being very unkind. Can you spend the day with step mil? And it's not you OP, it's them! 🌷

Ladywillpower · 10/03/2018 16:44

YANBU that is horrible. Could she be jealous of you?

Huntinginthedark · 10/03/2018 16:56

No that’s massively shitty
Sorry

DontWannaBeObamasElf · 10/03/2018 17:15

YANBU but do you really want to spend time with those who don’t give you a second thought? Arseholes. I’m in Aberdeenshire. Have you joined the Mums in Aberdeen and Shire Page on Facebook?

Littleelffriend · 10/03/2018 17:18

Aberdeen is a hard place to make friends I sympathise. How old is your son?

MamanfromOz · 10/03/2018 17:24

Yes I am on the mums in Aberdeen Facebook page. My son is 2.

I dont see why there would be jealousy. My DH thinks it is that MIL is cliquey and wants to have her daughter to herself and SIL just doesnt think.

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