In thinking ds will be fine seeing dn later? (Illness.)

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Posting here for traffic sorry. And it's a really boring aibu.

So we're meant to go to dinner at mil and fil tonight.

Sil is also meant to be coming with her two girls.

Wednesday dn got a fever and rash has broken out today so she has rosella. She's almost 3 and actually had it last year too.

Other dn is 1 so probably brewing it right now although seems fine.

My ds (4) had it when he was 1. Dh doesn't want to go to dinner in case he catches it again.

I think he'll be fine as from what I've heard it's not contagious when the rash has broken out and the other doesn't have a fever yet so probably isn't contagious either.

My whole argument about it being fine is falling down with Dh somewhat as both dn and I have had it twice (I had it again a few years ago.)

I'm usually the first to avoid getting ill if we can help it but it's really uncommon to get rosella twice isn't it?

What would the wise Mumsnet all do?

(I have a feeling dh just doesn't want to go )

I'm with your husband. Why risk getting sick?

Umm, don't go of you don't want to?

Sil maybe should be the one not going if she has the sick children?

Also, what is rosella?

Oops roseola. Sometimes called 6ths disease.

This?
www.nhs.uk/conditions/roseola/

High fever then a rash breaks out.

Yes my spelling isn't so great.

What is Rosella? I googled it and found parrots and a type of plant.

Cross posted!

I guess it depends if you are up for a week of fever for little one and probably broken nights for you all for the sake of one meal.

Do you get together often?

Sil has offered not to go but this will cause friction with mil and fil.

It'll be seen as I'm asking her to stay home. For something that's unlikely to happen.

Then she'll (sil) spend half the evening on the phone to mil being all sad about having missed out.

I know. I realised my spelling mistake when I googled and got the same.

Ds hasn't seen the in laws in quite a while and would love to whereas sil's kids are there every day.

So the place may be contagious anyway?....

Why will your MIL and FIL object to your SIL not dragging her sick children out socialising, and why is anyone paying any attention to that?

The one with the rash feels fine apparently and the other seems fine at the moment.

Although I wouldn't even pose it as 'should I stay away', it annoys me when people do that. If you're sick, stay home.

Ds's birthday party THREE parents text that morning to say their kids were ill did I want them to keep them home? Wtf? Yes!

id not go, and if theyre weird about it, then id deal with that seperatly. I am not going to go and be around contagious illnesses if i dont have to. That would be crazy.

YABU - why would you willingly expose your child to possibly getting ill?

Why can't DH go and you stay home with DC (as it's his parents) ???

The one with the rash feels fine apparently and the other seems fine at the moment.

Although I wouldn't even pose it as 'should I stay away', it annoys me when people do that. If you're sick, stay home.

Ds's birthday party THREE parents text that morning to say their kids were ill did I want them to keep them home? Wtf? Yes!

Dh doesn't actually want to go. It's more ds that's keen on seeing his grandparents.

There are a whole family of viruses that cause roseola like symptoms, its reasonably likely that you can all catch it from them. Its spread by contact with saliva, which can last on surfaces for up to 24 hours. So a cough on the kitchen counter yesterday would still have potential to infect you if you put your hand in that spot and then touched your mouth or nose.

If you go, I would take precautions - no sharing toys, no using toys that are kept at MILs house. No sharing utensils, cups etc. No touching your face with your hands, lots and lots of hand washing with hot soapy water and drying with kitchen roll afterwards.

Thanks so much @SeaToSki that's really helpful advice. Maybe we'll swerve it.

Thinking about it though, yrs the rash looks unpleasant but it doesn't sound like roseola is much worse than a cold.
Also nhs advice is that they don't have to be kept away from others/nursery etc

DGS just had this, he had a temperature and was a bit quieter than usual. That was it. I babysat him for one of the days he had it and we had a little play and lots of cuddles. It was a lot easier than having a child with a cold. If you look out up on line you can sea out usually lasts ,3 days and only tends to be caught by babies and toddlers

Dmil has cancelled anyway as she doesn't want to catch anything. Obviously unlikely she would but she's recovering from pneumonia so I see her point!