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My 13yo wants to spend £74 of his birthday money on this:

http://www.supremenewyork.com/mobile/?c=1#products/303016

AIBU not to allow it? Unless I'm missing something it's just a BUM BAG

Your right its a bum bag, a very expensive bum bag

His birthday money, his choice surely? If he wants to waste spend his birthday money on a bumbag I'd let him get on with it.

Yes, but it's a SUPREME bum bag. (I have no idea what that means btw!)

I'd let him yes. I have designer bags. It's his money and his learning curve.

I'd let him,it's his money and he has to learn.

Hes 13 and its his birthday money, of course YABU. Have you never bought a designer bag? And even if you havnt and thats not your thing it doesnt mean your DS can't.

I think YABU I mean whats important to a 13 year old is probably going to be incomprehensible to any adult. And as its HIS birthday money so should be spent on something that will make him happy... then I think you should expect to see it vanish on something you think is ridiculous.

I mean what would be the point of birthday presents if they were all sensible uses of money approved by parents?

Just let him have his weird bag.

It's a ridiculous amount of money but it is HIS money. I'm tempted to say yabu however I'd be trying to encourage my child to spend it on something else too. If he wants it because it's Supreme then he is going to have to pay that much but there are loads of cheaper waist bags like that on ASOS from various designers. I'd prefer to pay a bit more and maybe get a Supreme hoodie instead. Maybe advise him on all the other things he could get for his money but I think it's ultimately up to him...

I think unreasonable is a bit strong. Just put it to him like - you only have x amount of money so if you want to spend it all in 1 go thats fine but there wont be anything else. 13 is a pretty appropriate age to learn the value of money but if it is his birthday money then he should really get to choose

Thanks for the comments, I've taken them on board.
I know it is HIS money and he should be able to spend it how he wishes (within reason) but I don't feel as though this is something he REALLY wants and that he's appreciating the value, it's as if his £100 birthday money is burning a hole in his pocket and he's just looked online and decided on the bag, not a good attitude.

I want to teach him the value of money and to save so we've agreed that he give me £50 to put in his savings account and he can keep £50. If he wants that bum bag enough he can sell some of his old things online and/or do jobs around the house for pocket money, that way he'll appreciate it more when he finally gets the bag, either that or he won't bother and we'll see if it was something he really wanted!

Can you get to the shop? My DSs were so into supreme. Took them to the shop and they soon realised it was just hype and they ciuld get better elsewhere. It’s jot well made. They create hype by having only very limited numbers of items so teens buy into that totally.

His money, he can buy what he likes with it.

Yanbu, you can get leather ones on Ebay for a fiver.
He is very likely to get buyers regret from that once it arrives and he sees its just a nylon bumbag.

If it's his birthday money then it should be his choice.

If you want to encourage saving, then inspire him with bigger things he could save for.

He's old enough to get married (in Scotland) in 3 years. He should be allowed to spend his money as he likes. If you were buying it for him, fair enough. But it is his money.

I don't agree with its his money his choice. He's a child, and they often make bad choices. It's our jobs as parents to help them make good ones.

Pointing out the downside of buying something not worth the money- yes, parental job.

But if they're insistent, or not listening, then let them learn by their own mistakes.
Cause it's more effective. And this is not a critically important issue. Let them learn before they come up against one of those.

Blastomama, it's not like adults agree on what constitutes a 'good' choice. So you might disagree with an adult getting a designer bag, a Swiss watch or an expensive holiday but many (myself included) think that the point of birthday or Christmas money is to spend it on a nice treat. It's not like the boy wants to blow school uniform money on a bum bag.

You can do it your way, I can do it mine. There is no right or wrong here, just different parenting styles.

@frasier
He's old enough to get married (in Scotland) in 3 years.

Oh in that case I should allow him to do whatever he likes

@frasier and he’d be old enough to get married in Kentucky NOW if he was a girl

This is the sort of thing I would want to buy at his age - I’m still a bit ‘money burning a hole’ type!

My boys are a bit younger, but so far when they get money, what seems to work is to say if they desperately want it, then they can buy it - but just consider you could buy X amount of instead, or wait until they have another fiver and buy . Ultimately, I don’t say no because it’s not my money, but I do try and steer them towards waiting. In general it seems to work.

Let him buy it... if there is something else he wanted in the next few weeks, his punishment will be having to save for it because he wasted it on something silly

"Oh in that case I should allow him to do whatever he likes"

No one said that. You made that up.

You obviously aren't going to let him spend his own money of stuff, so why ask?

It was a fair response to a rather silly point. So he can get married in Scotland in three years, so what?

You can't stop him. But you can take the piss for at least 5 years.

His money, his daft choice. But I'd suggest he wait a couple of weeks to see that he still wants it as much then. I do that myself quite often.