To not understand my Mum *trigger warning *

[IsItTooEarlyForTequila]

I really probably should have got over this but it plays on my mind a lot.

For the first 10 years of my life I went to stay with my Grandparents on a Friday night until Sunday.
I loved every minute of it. I did the pools with my GF, played dominoes & helped my GM load the washing from the twin tub into the spinner. Happy memories for me.

My mother has recently announced that my GF sexually abused her for 15 years.

I don’t know what to think.

Part of me thinks if it’s true why did she put me with them ? I have to say my GF never did anything to me.
If she’s making it up - why ?

Perhaps she blamed herself, thought the abuse was her fault therefore other children would be safe with him. Guilt and self blame are not uncommon.

If it’s true why did she send her daughter to stay every week for 10 years? Surely nobody would do that in those circumstances as your instinct as a mother is to protect

Then on the other hand it would be a fucking sick lie to tell wouldn’t it?

Sadly I fear you may never really know the truth here

Perhaps she was coerced to leave you there? Perhaps she thought only she was in danger? Perhaps she mentally blocked it out and its only recently come back to her? Perhaps not any of these.

I was sexually abused by my stepdad, due to circumstances beyond my control, DD1 lived with him throughout most of her childhood. I really didn't think he'd do it to her. I was wrong. 😭