WIBU to ask my husband to change shirts?

[Wiggler1]

My husband has about 3 plaid shirts, one of which he has on today to go visit my parents. I absolutely hate them, they remind me of the shirts my ex-stepdad used to wear, he was pretty abusive and I have no good memories associated with him. When my husband wears them I get this irrational anger/sick feeling when I look at him that I’ve just realised is because my brain is making this connection. I’ve tried dropping hints (he wears them every time we go out), and I haven’t wanted to be the wife who tells him what to wear, but he has so many nice tops he could wear that don’t make me feel this way!

WIBRU of me to ask him to wear something else, and how would I go about saying it without upsetting/offending him?

Why don't you just tell him the truth? Then he probably won't even WANT to wear them.

Have you tried breaking the connection and making good memories?

Tell him the truth and unless he's an arsehole he'll happily change

What’s plaid?

just tell him
There is a T shirt my dh wears I hate, that reminds me i must lose it for him

buy him a different style op?

Just tell him the truth. Why wouldn’t you?

does your dm get upset too?

What’s plaid?

Lumberjack, faux-tartan style.

I love plaid shirts. Never knew they were called that, until this thread, and the fact I had to look it up.
Dh wears them, and I think they are really smart.
Do I don't quite understand the connection to the abusive step dad. Or surely that could be broken? The connection?

Or more importantly, why haven't you just TOLD him. very odd. Why would you not tell someone something like this?

It’s only just occurred to me why I don’t like them, I’d just put it down to being personal taste and as I can be pretty picky about things I’d put my reaction down to that, but it’s just twigged. I’ve just told him I don’t really like them, but not why, he has loads of them and if he threw them out he wouldn’t have many shirts left. I wouldn’t want him to feel that he had to.

Tell him the truth or you are being offensive to him.

You seem to be making this into a bigger deal than it needs to be.

He is your husband. Just tell him. You don't necessarily need to get into the details of what exactly happened unless you want to, but any reasonable person, let alone husband, will discard said shirts forthwith.

And why do you start by saying in your OP that he has 3 plaid shirts but just now you've said he has "loads of them and if he threw them out he wouldn't have many shirts left."?