Who's being more Unreasonable?

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I've been home all day with a sick toddler. High temperatures and not wanting to move off my lap. Had a list of jobs as long as my arm, including doing the food shopping, but only did bits of cleaning at home because of sick DS.
DH phones before leaving work says not to worry about shopping, he will bring dinner in, he gets in about half 6 so fits perfectly around getting DS to bed.
He arrived home at half 6, firstly with no dinner! Then he has an almighty hissy fit, because the bin men have left us the wrong bin and we're left with someone's bin who's spilt fresh orange juice in the bottom and there are bits of recycling stuck to the bottom of the bin (just moved in and haven't got around to putting numbers on it) and everyone else has taken their bins in so we're stuck with it. Apparently that is somehow my fault and DH has flounced off upstairs and didn't come back down!

Since then I've made DS a quick dinner, dosed him and put him to bed and in that time DH has moved from upstairs to lying on the sofa and has put the sports channels on. I'm now sat in the kitchen, upset because of DS being ill and DH hasn't even asked how he is or acknowledged him, but also because of DH's lack of help, support and his general attitude towards me, not to mention the fact he didn't bring food home.

So AIBU to feel so upset? Or are cabin fever and tiredness getting the better of me?

No YANBU. Your DH is acting like a child.

YANBU. Is he usually a selfish cunt?

You know YANBU. Is this typical behaviour for your DH? If it isn’t maybe tell him that you don’t want to fight and ask him how his day went? If mine ever behaved thus way I would assume that he was either being sued or someone died/was dying (from experience).

Is your husband always such a miserable, useless asshole?

Oh and Deliveroo

Agree take away for 1...

How do you know it was fresh orange juice Sorry.

You are being entirely reasonable and your DH needs to grow up. Leave him on his own for dinner tonight, just sort yourself out. Sounds like he needs to learn a lesson in consideration. Hope your DS is feeling better soon.

What a childish prick.

Suggest a take away and start again. He's being an arse but maybe the bin was the last straw in a series of crap events. For all that your day was rubbish too you're still holding it together so be the bigger person today and you will be able to claim it back another time when you feel less reasonable. Give and take. I hope your ds feels better soon, ive been home with a poorly dc for 7 very long days. Its hard!

Pinky at the minute, yes! He works full time and sees his evening as 'his time'. I work 2 days a week plus I care for DS, do all the housework, shopping, dealing with bills, cooking, cleaning etc.

Anything that goes wrong at the min seems to be my fault, whether I could do anything about it or not. I guess I've got to the point where I'm not sure if it's just him being a dick, or whether I genuinely am doing things wrong.

Dalek just assumed as it was the carton left with no lid, plus side is it was recycling, so nothing bio 😂

If it's out of character then maybe something's happened between his call, where he offered to get tea, and getting home, so give him the benefit of the doubt, and ask what's up.
If he's usually like this, I think I'd squirrel off upstairs with a fish-finger sandwich and microwave popcorn to read a good book, and leave him to stew in his own juices. Actually I'd probably have a blazing row with him in RL, but I'd like to think I could rise above that.....

He's an asshole.

I would phone a takeaway for myself and eat it with a glass of wine in the kitchen.

But I'm a big child who would escalate the argument out of stubbornness.

A sick child should take priority over a grown up having "their time" and most certainly over a stupid freaking bin.

If it's a bin that comes inside your house then yes bit more annoying, if not then who cares. I don't think my husband nor I have ever once looked at the inside of our shared outdoor bins other then to see if they're full or not and we've had them mixed up with neighbours despite being numbered.

Forgetting about dinner is one thing, not even asking how his sick child is, quite another.

It's a bloody bin for God's sake. Sounds like you've got two toddlers.

Leigh this is my thinking! If I'd been at work all day, knowing full well my son had been ill all day and feeling miserable, the first thing I'd want to do is have a cuddle and find out how he was. I couldn't give 2 shits about the bloody bin!

Decided to go for a bag of mini eggs and some catch up tv. I know how to live!!

He is being extremely unreasonable OP.
Get yourself something nice to eat and drink and leave him to sulk on his own on the sofa.
I hope your dc is better in the morning x