WIBU or DH

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Have just lost plot with DH.
Sat watching an item on the news about female firefighters with DH and DD (10)

DH said he was listening earlier to a radio show where a female FF who was at present at the Grenfell fire had apparently had to make a decision between rescuing a woman or her baby. DH pipes up he was surprised the interviewer didn't raise the point about women being physically weaker than men and that this scenario wouldn't have arisen had a man been doing the rescue ipso facto women shouldn't be doing that job.

I just couldn't believe he would say something so blatantly sexist and especially in front of DD. He on the other hand believes he was "only speaking the truth.

So was it me or him??
(Should add we moved house yesterday and both of us are beyond exhausted)

He was being unreasonable. I know a lot of females that can bench lift more than the men I know

Him

How many people did he rescue?

His point being that 2 people doing same job - the man would've been able to carry both woman and baby

My oh is a firefighter, he has several women on his watch, they are just as fit & strong as most of the men, more so in some cases! Your dh is talking bollocks & needs to give his head a wobble!

Brilliant Teeny!

I doubt you could safely carry both mother and child in a smokey, hot place with possible objects blocking the way. And I don't think there are many incidents where that level of strength is necessary.

On average most men are stronger than most women so it’s hard to say he’s being unreasonable.

That being said, I’d expect a FF of either sex to be able to carry a woman and baby, weak FF whether they are men or women are a danger to the public.

He's being a twat.

I know a woman firefighter. Every bit as able as the men.

He was talking bullshi, not the truth.

I'd be so disappointed in my unreasonable husband if he came out with a comment like that.

I would expect a ff of either sex to be able to physically do the same job, if the female ff had to make that decision I’d think it was to do with safety and it’d be something a ff of either sex would have to consider - not to do with physical strength

Happy International Women’s Day.

Think I was most upset that he made such an outrageous comment infront of DD.

Tender beloved is trained ff (retired).

Every ff would have had to make the choice. You cannot safely rescue two people in one go.

I wouldn't expect a FF of either sex to carry a woman and a baby safely in that situation. Could end up risking both. Absolutely nothing to do with physical strength.

Wouldn't have arisen had a man been doing to rescue

He was only speaking the truth.

Incorrect, he was stating his (misguided) opinion. Unless he is a FF, knew the FF in question and the exact circumstances surrounding the rescue, he positively cannot give that conclusion as anything other than his opinion based on zero facts other than the sex of the FF. As this is the only fact he based his conclusion on, obviously it is sexist and you are not unreasonable to be annoyed he has said this in front of your daughter.

Also, unless the FF who went in was the world's strongest man, you would always be able to say "if someone stronger went in...". However, I have the feeling this point would not be even considered if it had been a male FF and was only being considered due to the childish "boys are stronger than girls" rhetoric.

Well, he was close!

Firefighter Warnsby had to choose between a woman and child on one floor or a family on the 15th... He chose the woman and child, and they went back to save another woman and child...

Or an anonymous firefighter recounted getting to the 20th floor and the decisions that went through his head, including his female partner was a new mum, his female partner carried a woman down stairs until she could be handed over to the next team and then they went back up...

A 26 year old woman on her 5th day in the job went into Grenfell

So there were women firefighters... they were carrying casualties... but Google just doesn't throw up any story that matches his little tale of womanly woe.

Tell him he is talking bollocks... or through them!

I heard that radio programme. It wasn't a woman or her baby. It was a woman or her child. It didn't say what age the child was. They could have been 17 for all your DH knows. It sounded to me like it was a situation where it wasn't possible to get both people out safely, and it didn't cross my mind that that was anything to do with the firefighter being female. Just that a firefighter - and I assumed, listening to it, that this would apply to ANY firefighter - could only take one of the two people. It didn't even say if it was anything to do with them being carried.

Perhaps your DH should spend more time thinking about how brave that firefighter was, and what awful memories she must have, and how desperately she must wish that it had been possible to save both people.

He is wrong especially as told this in front of DD.
You are just a tiny bit wrong because of losing it in front of DD.
Congratulations with moving the house!

Babies weigh bugger all I should know I have one. Whatever prevented her or him rescuing both it was not weigt.