To tell him to get his f****** Fiesta off my driveway

[Iwantmydrivewayformyself]

I need some advice about neighbours teenage son who keeps parking his modified, noisy Ford Fiesta on my driveway, coming and going at all hours of the night and basically being a dick in general!

Me, 17 year old DD and DH all drive.
Me and DH have long ass Volvo’s, hence use the spare space on our four car drive for guests or reversing. DD is shit at parking and uses the spare space to get into and out of her space without damaging mine and DH’s cars

The space is also used for guests

Anyway, my neighbours each only have one car space. We are three houses off a long, bendy country road which is unlit, so you’d be a fool to park there

If you park anywhere else down our road (which is tiny) you block the way

We are lucky to have the end house, which has the most parking by far, however we also have the biggest house by far, others are only two beds so not as much parking (one car each)

We asked neighbours son to stop parking here, but he hasn’t. Three times now our guests have had nowhere to park

Aside from that, neighbours son is rude and noisy and wakes me up at three AM, so even further cause for me to say no, get the fuck off my drive

I knocked on his parents door and spoke with him, wasn’t rude, but just said please don’t park there. For a week he didn’t, then as of two days ago he’s back again

So AIBU to not let him park there?

And what should I do?

It’s all our land beyond the dotted line, neighbours have no right of access or right to go onto our driveway. We own all of it, this I am 100% sure of!

Thanks!

Go and talk to his parents. Tell them you have asked him nicely, but he’s still parking there. Tell them clearly that if he does it again you will have it towed away.

Don’t inconvenience yourself by putting in bollards, gates etc.

@KC225 things that once Googled haunt your internet, dare ya!
I would go back round and tell him that you've already told him once, next time it'll be clamped. DH would just stick a screw through his tyre. Massive mn points for the diagram BTW.

Speak to his parents. And tell him/them the next time he abandons his car on your property you will be having it towed, and will not be responsible for any damage caused to it in the process.

Speak to the parents. Definitely. CF

Speak to his parents. You don't have to give an explanation. It's trespass tho', unfortunately, that's a civil offence. But it might help if you pointed out that that space isn't just for parking. You need it to manoeuvre your cars.

I have a similar problem with randoms who park in my second parking space. It's at the end of a track and I can't turn my car when they park in it. I'd have to reverse down a single track straight on to a bus route at the bottom. They just blithely park there without understanding the logistics and have always been reasonable when it's explained to them.

Can you not park your cars in a way so that he cannot get onto the drive and then if he is on the drive block him in so that he gets the message?

Chain link may be the way to go, although I’m worried that may be seen as a bit too much of a ‘fuck off’ statement move! - well what then? You do want him to fuck off. What if he decides that he'd like to have breakfast in your kitchen or sleep in your bed!! This is not really a CF is it, he's not parking over your drive, or parking when you are not there, he's actually using your property and you are enabling it!

The week that he didn't park there, where did he park?
Could he think that your boundary goes due north in line with side of your house, rather than obliquely the way you have drawn it? Therefore there is a potential space to the right of "me" which would be on shared drive and so up for grabs?

Can you, DH and DD not park in a manner that doesn't allow him to get into your drive?

Whoever goes out first in the morning should park across the entrance.

Is it a paved driveway or juts road? If you haven’t gotten anywhere with him, then you need to approach his parents if you get on with them. Or juts go with the bollards. Only issue with them is it would also block emergency access to your house

Deffo speak to the parents they may well be really embarrassed. I would be.

Have you ever spoken to his parents before about anything? If not it is a bit daunting to have to make the first chat a compliant - but frame it in a ooooh teenagers sort of way (you have one yourself) and it will probably be ok.

It's very simple - helloooo. I'm so and so from down the end - sorry to be moaning but, can you ask your boy not to park on our drive please? Ta.

You don't need a reason.

Your first port of call is his parents. If that doesn’t work then get some bollards. When similar happened to my SIL she put bins there until she got a bigger chain on the boundary line.

Cover it in bird seed?

Let the pigeons do the job for you.

There are so many things you can do!

• tell his parents if he parks there again, you’re getting it towed

• put up a chain link

• park differently so he can’t do it

All of these are reasonable, non-confrontational, and easy!

Get the chain!

We had a similar set up with the end house - My dad put up little rhino posts when our neighbours and delivery vans and guests kept using our driveway as a turning circle or parking. Solved it overnight! Good for security too, as ours were positioned so a van couldn't get around them - that was deliberate after we had a very professional burglary that emptied the house of things like enormous flat screen TVs in under 9 minutes (we know this because the police said they arrived on the scene within 9 minutes!).

However it did mean we had to get out and lock/unlock the buggers every time we left the house. I think you can get electric ones, but they are more money and if they breakdown, you're stuck!!

This sort of thing:

www.barriersdirect.co.uk/bollards-c1022/telescopic-retractable-bollards-c1024/rhino-telescopic-retractable-parking-posts-perfect-for-domestic-use-p535?shopping&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIjMKnzdDc2QIVS18ZCh1gKQwBEAQYAyABEgKoVvD_BwE

You can't see them when they're down, so they're slightly more subtle than a fence!

I wouldn’t speak to his parents. Nothing to do with them. If he’s old enough to drive he’s old enough to deal with you and if he won’t you should have no qualms about doing whatever you need to get the message across.

Iwantmydrivewayformyself

Can you call for the car to be towed? That will only cost the car owner money.

His parents will have seen him parking there, so talking to them isn't going to achieve anything. You need to be more creative with your parking so there isn't room for him. Don't use the front space and use the two back ones so that he can't get on the drive.
It's a PITA playing musical cars but we do it all the time with our 2 DDs now driving. Our NDN got a bit assy about them being out on the road one day as they had visitors, so we all now play car tetris on a daily basis.

I think I’d just put a chain across your driveway, where you’ve drawn the dotted line. Hopefully he won’t see it and drive his car into it and cause damage to his car. Padlock the chain, yes it will be a bit of a ball ache, but it will send out a very clear message to your neighbours!

If he's 17/18 I wonder if he's declared all the modifcations to his insurers, it's ruinously expensive to get insurance for a modded car as a young driver.

Maybe the local police might want to check that he's legally on the road

Do you have his (parents) land line number? Probably not, but if you do, ring it every time he wakes you at 3am and wake them to tell them their son has woken you, and to tell him to get his car off your drive every time you see his car parked on your drive, regardless of time of day or night.

If you don't have the land line number the chain link fence sounds good. Its no more of a fuck off move than having a front door to stop him coming in and sleeping on your sofa really!

Its fairly astounding that parking on other people's drives without permission isn't illegal, but MN usually declares it isn't.