In expecting mil to come see her grand kids

[Kneehighinnappies]

My mil lives in Malta, however she is back while sil goes back to uni to finish her course while mil looks after her dd.
She has been back for over a week now and I have had my DT's for nearly 6 weeks and we hadn't even got a call to see how they are doing since we phoned her to let her know that they had arrived.

They live in cardiff and us near London, so about a 2 hrs drive.
Dh ended up phoning mil who said that the 2 sil were going to come see the dt's while she stayed at home to look after sil dd.

I don't have a bad relationship with her but there has been some bad feeling from DH, I don't undrstand why she has no interest in my 3 kids.

How odd . And looking at your photos I think she must be mad, they are BEAUTIFUL children you lucky lady x

Kneehigh, cute photos by the way, I really wouldnt waste your time trying to figure this woman out. If you delve too deep you may not like what you find out.
What are your dh's feelings about this?

kneehigh, I completely sympathise with you. My MIL lives twenty minutes away but makes very little effort to see my kids. Her daughter, my SIL, has 5 kids and my MIL visits them at least 3 times a week. It really used to bother me especially as my mum passed away before I had children but my kids are not particulary bothered by the lack of vists so neither am I. Easier said than done but dont let this odd behaviour get to you.

Your MIL doesn't sound very tactful.
Maybe if you were very blunt and said that it would be nice for the DTs to meet their grandmother?
Perhaps she's not very good at subtle hints, and thinks she is doing you all a favour by looking after your SIL's children so she can come and see you?
Suggest they all come together - it would be nice for all the cousins to meet up, wouldn't it?

Kneehigh, the paternal grandmother of my daughter lives at the other side of the same city as we do, but refuses to visit anybody as apparently they should go to her (we can't get to her, but she drives). Sometimes people just don't give a toss.

Enjoy your kids

Agnes

her loss kneehigh, she will perhaps wonder in years to come why your dc show no interest in her.