In thinking the bridesmaid should get a plus one?

[CraicMammy]

The bridesmaid has received her wedding invitation this week, she is the sister of the bride.

The invite is just for bridesmaid, not her boyf of three years. He’s a lovely lad, has seen the bridesmaid through some very tough times, but her parents don’t like him basically because they’re snobs.

Wedding is 100+ day guests, more for the evening, so it’s not a numbers thing.

AIBU thinking it’s totally out of order to put the bridesmaid in this position when she’s giving up her time to help with preparations, organise the hen etc, but leave her to explain why the boyf isn’t welcome?

You're the bridesmaid aren't you. Just talk to your sister.

Are you the bridesmaid op?

I would tell her to stuff her wedding and book a weekend away to coincide with the wedding and post lovely pics of myself snd my bf on fb.

Thinking the bridesmaid can discover that she has better things to do on the day.

What is it they specifically object to in the bf?

Very, very poor form not to invite sister’s boyfriend (regardless of bridesmaid or not)

That’s going to look pretty bad to both their own family and the groom’s family.

How would the bride feel if her sister had done that to her?

It’s the kind of slight that will never be forgotten. Surely her relationship with her sister is worth more??

I think the bridesmaid needs to ask the sister why he is not invited,

That’s bad craic, I’m a bridesmaid for a cousin, I’m single, and I’m getting a plus one. Is the boyfriend local? Or would he have much travelling for it if she was getting ready somewhere else?

I would decline the invite to be bridesmaid in that situation.

I would decline being a bridesmaid and not attend the wedding. Bride and parents are actively damaging their relationship with bridesmaid, this is really sad and hurtful.

In what way is he “beneath them”, since you say they are snobs?
Are we talking not knowing what fork to use, or just out of prison?

What's the BF's take on it? Is he bothered?

Personally I think thats rude

I'd tell her where to shove being her bridesmaid

Hi all, thank you all for your replies, I really appreciate them. I’m not the bridesmaid, just a close member of the family and I didn’t have anyone IRL who isn’t family to use as a sounding board. Thanks again

It's pretty clueless and selfish to ask people to attend an event to celebrate your relationship whilst simultaneously ignoring theirs.

Leigh that's awful.Sometimes MN makes me grateful for the friends and family I've got. They're not that bad!

Incredibly rude.

If it's a 'snobbery' thing the it's the bride / her parents who are showing appalling manners.

The bridesmaid thing is irrelevant.

The main point is they are sisters and she is not inviting sister's partner of 3 years. Out of order.