AIBU re this TV Programme?

[SilverySurfer]

I was flicking through channels looking for something to watch and there's a programme on Quest Red called Sister Wives about an American man with three wives and numerous children. Not sure if they are Mormon or not but I got to wondering why, as a woman, would you choose to share your DH with two other women. I really can't think of any advantages for them but plenty for the man

I just wondered if anyone on here would ever consider doing such a thing? I'm guessing not but would be interested to know what you think.

I have watched that show, ages ago, and I think the point for the women was that they felt they were marrying wonderful men who had a huge amount to offer and if sharing them was part of the deal, that was the price they were prepared to pay (and yes they were Mormons in Utah). In this respect, one of the men seemed a better bet that the other. Would I want to do it? No way.

It is fascinating. There's part of me loves the communal aspect of bringing up the children, they seem loved by all the women and have a nice relationship and it could be a really stimulating environment for them. But no to the husband sharing. Just nope.

I've seen this programme a few times, I find it fascinating - he actually has 4 wives now and a few extra kids too (including 3 of his 4th wife's kids who he adopted). The wives have mostly been brought up in this culture themselves so it seemed normal to them, though they have talked about the jealousy and difficulties they face knowing their husband has to be shared. Pragmatically there are benefits in having a number of adults in a household (they share childcare between them and at least one of the wives worked while their kids were little) and there's some companionship between the wives, though they don't all get on that well. Interestingly, the older kids are in early adulthood now and none of them have expressed a wish to follow a polygamist lifestyle, though they all seem happy and well loved by all of the mums - make of that what you will. Wouldn't be for me and I don't know what I think of it - on one hand they've chosen this life (as much of as anyone can choose when there are societal pressures). On the other hand the fact that only men can have several spouses does suggest an element of control.

I agree with that, the community aspect was wonderful.

Thanks for clarifying they are Mormons, I missed the beginning. I can't help wondering why these sorts of arrangements always seem to benefit the men - I would love to think that somewhere in the world there are communities where a woman has multiple husbands but I think the chances are pretty much zero. Probably too difficult with so many fragile male egos