Who should sleep downstairs?

[ObiJuanKenobi]

DH is snowing like a warthog again, I have to be up early for a 5 hour drive for a work meeting and am desperately trying to get some sleep in.
For the last hour and a half it's been a constant battle between me being annoyed by the snoring which is right in my face/ear and him being annoyed with me for waking him up to try and shut him up.

I think as he's the one disturbing the peace he should bugger off to the sofa, he thinks as I'm the one having a problem with his snoring that I should do the honours and try and get some sleep downstairs.

Who is BU? Please please please don't let it be me!

Snoring not snowing

In our house, it's the one being annoyed that gets kicked out of the bed. It would depend on the meeting and how big it was whether that would overrule the general rule. Exams and interviews always took priority over the general rule but most meetings wouldn't.

Yanbu but I think you need your sleep more than further negotiations. I'd take the sofa.

Tricky. No spare room I’m guessing? My DH snores but I wouldn’t consider making him sleep on the sofa because that would be really uncomfortable, I would expect him to try and do something about it though - turn over when asked, try throat sprays etc.

If you’re up at five I’d go sleep somewhere else just because id really want to sleep and it doesn’t sound like he’s shifting!

YABU it's not his fault, he is not doing it on purpose. I sympathise, I have got very irritated in this situation in the past. But I don't think it's fair to make him go downstairs. Get some ear plugs

The person who wants quiet moves, I'm afraid

Bugger, you're right definitely need sleep more than debate, too. Up in 4 hours

I moved to the spare room permanently because of DH snoring. It's no fun being kept awake all night, every night 😪

I sympathise with you OP. My DP snores VERY loudly and you can hear it outside the house if the window is open upstairs. His snoring is much worse when he is drunk and he gets angry when I nudge him to roll over...even though it is his fault for getting so pissed he snores like a growling bear lol

My DP wouldn't go to the sofa, it would be me as I'm the one who can't sleep....even if I wish he would :P

I record my DH when his snoring is bad & play it back to him. He snores even when he isn’t fully asleep! Drives me potty! My DH has sinus problems & is overweight which doesn’t help him, if he has a cold it’s unbearable. He trying to lose weight so I’m hoping it will improve as I don’t like sleeping without him in the bed, bloody catch 22. I did recently buy lots of earplugs very cheaply from amazon & they helped with his recent cold

My partner is the one that gets booted out when he snores (which he is now, but i’m too awake to care). We have a very comfy spare room though so he doesn’t mind. Also I find it very hard to sleep anywhere except my own bed (like the fucking princess and the pea - ANY tiny disturbance will keep me awake).

In our house whoever cannot sleep tends to sleep elsewhere.
Tonight that happens to be me but that’s more because I’m so bunged up and full of cold that I can’t sleep, I imagine though that if I could sleep the I’d be the one snoring 😂😂 I have now given up for a while and plan on either exhausting myself to sleep or boring myself to sleep with the repeated cycles on bbc news 😴

I disagree with most others on this thread. I think that the one snoring should be the one to move, especially if they refuse to do anything to help/stop their snoring.

Snoring is one of the most infuriating things to listen to. If DH was a snorer, he'd be booted to the spare room without a backward glance.

You should go in spare room - if just for sleep and rest.
YANBU BTW, it’s just the easiest solution IMO

Dh sleeps in the spare room now. He snores badly.

When I lived at home I wanted to suffocate my DF for snoring. I don't know how my DM copes, he genuinely makes walls vibrate! So definitely your DF should sleep downstairs.

Though, apparently according to my so called parents when they stay, I have started snoring. Clearly complete bollocks...

Dh was/is a snorer. When he is overweight it is like a train and his fault so he (willingly and gracefully) takes the spare room.

When he is unwell it is not as bad, but I move as it is out of his control.

When he is in good health and slim he doesn’t snore.

www.boots.com/health-pharmacy/vitaminsandsupplements/vitamins-supplements-shop-by-ingredient/snoreeze-snoring-relief-oral-device-10217887

Try that in the future, it's the only thing that works for my husband's snoring, worth every penny.

Definitely agree with @LeighaJ on this! I bought my DH the same Snoreeze oral device and it completely stopped his snoring. Took him a few nights to get used to, but it saved our marriage. (Pretty sure you can buy it cheaper if you get it directly from their website rather than from Boots btw!)

Snoring isn't normal and it's HIS problem to deal with, not yours. It can actually cause really serious health conditions later down the line. So make him move if he's not prepared to do anything about it.

Oooo thank you for the suggestions.
I went downstairs and then half an hour later was woken up by him coming down for a drink so I reclaimed the bed and chucked his pillows down the stairs

God what a pain in the arse he is, even waking you up once you'd moved! I think the long drive should have taken priority as that is a safety issue. He should have done the decent thing and slept on the sofa. But I may be biased as I get terrible rage if I'm woken as I can't get back to sleep.

Never mind I'll be all alone in a hotel room for the next few nights and sleeping peacefully