What's the most ridiculous thing that's ever been said to you?

[FloppyDoodle]

I'm sure this has been done before, but I've been inspired by another thread.

I'm an introvert and was also extremely shy when I was younger. I'm not one for general chit chat with strangers and people always comment on how quiet I am. I was bemoaning the fact to an ex that I was so shy and that I struggled to think of things to say to a someone I didnt know. His pearl of wisdom was, "Talk more then"

I was really ill when I was pregnant and needed a lot of time off sick and one of my colleagues told me I should have handed my notice in when I found out I was pregnant because “it wasn’t fair on the company”. We work for a huge company that makes millions in profits, I’m sure my sick leave was a drop in the ocean.

After a 24 hour induced twin labour with lots of horrible examinations, loads of drugs and just exhausting, I was rushed in to theatre for an emergency csec. I was so upset as I had got so far and my twins were nearly born. I was drugged up to the eye balls and utterly shattered and shit scared that something bad was going to happen to my babies. In theatre the (male) anethetist took one look at me and my DPs scared, exhausted faces and said ‘why aren’t you smiling? This is meant to be the happiest day of your life.’ If I hadn’t been so anethetised I could’ve walloped him.

Now it always gets my back up when people talk about giving birth and how it should be the best day of peoples lives, because for many women it’s the complete opposite.

This happens all the time. When I tell people I work from home. I always get 'that must be so handy with the children'. No, I WORK from home. This means I actually WORK and am therefore away from the children in my office WORKING not able to watch them, amuse them, look after them during that time.

It is not possible to be on the phone with clients whilst feeding a 1 year old

When DD2 was 10, after 6 years of fighting with the GP about a referral for autism (she was finally diagnosed last year aged 12) because her sleep issues were slowly killing me, the 12 year old GP suggested I get her into a 'night time routine'.

Well fucking thanks for that genius! I would never have thought of that after parenting for 17 years!!

"Oh, but you've got so much to be happy for! Just open your eyes and look."
Said by someone in a group as I'd started to open up about my MH issues. I'd been trying to explain and they just shot it down with that one remark.
I'm sure I've had nastier things said to me when I was school age, but this one sticks in my mind as I was starting to feel a bit less ashamed of my MH and they put me right back again.

That someone was sure my son's autism could be fixed! 😒

Um sweetmoon you are being obtuse. For a start you are spared commuting and paying for sandwiches and coffees

That I should ask my boss when it would be a good time for me to have another baby. From a counsellor.

That taking maths and further maths for a level was a bad idea as they weren't 'academic' enough.

At 18, after tearfully telling a student support officer at Uni that I'd made a mistake in my course choice because my dyscalculia made it impossible for me to follow the heavy number-focsed content on some modules.

"Oh, that sounds difficult. Have you thought about studying Maths instead?"

Also, that my rheumatoid arthritis would disappear if I stopped eating gluten.

I was had just had my 4th child and my others were still very little. I was exhausted and looked to my DM for some words of comfort and support. She said 'well, what did you expect?'

I answered the phone at my DGF's house to someone asking for my DGM. She had died a few months before. I said "sorry, she passed away but I can take a message for my GF". The person on the phone told me she wasn't dead. I had a Phoebe Buffay moment and just said "well cremating her was a mistake then." The person on the phone then spent ten minutes arguing with me about it before I hung up. DGM had a very unusual name so I'm pretty sure they hadn't mixed her up with anyone. Afterwards I was a bit like

To be asked by one colleague if I was ageing for two when pregnant and have another colleague come up to me and tell me that she thought of me as the least maternal person she'd ever met.

Reading this makes me think of the lack of filter people have

1. My mother telling my that my infertility is causing her distress because she is deceiving her friends when they ask why J havenhad a child yet. WTF?!

1. My autoimmune inflammatory arthritis whjch makes me have MRI’s every 6 mths for life isn’t physically obvious so I must be imagining it.

FFS.

Someone said 'Pregnancy isn't that bad. I worked til 39 weeks with all 5 of mine'

After I'd been admitted to hospital with a possible PE, possible liver failure and extreme tachycardia/palpitations. Thanks mate. Thanks.

"I don't believe in evidence" from a family member of dp's, while disfavourably comparing my decision to wean at 6 months with soul's decision to wean at 3 months.

Friend: "did you do anything nice for Valentine's Day?"
Me: "well, erm, no, because my Mum died that day didn't she?"
Friend: "oh I know that but I meant in the evening?"

“I fell on it”. (A&E doc)

An ex friend told me she couldn't be around me as I had "started to become depressing" it was 2 weeks after my nan (who brought me up) died.

Mydaddysgirl I've got arthritis too

Apparently JuicePlus is just what we need for our auto immune issues!

Spoke to one of the doctors at my surgery and asked for a new fit note as I was claiming esa for my son, upon him asking me what the reason was for the fit note I said my son was autistic with severe learning difficulties and non verbal, he them proceeded to ask me if he was still autistic I then replied “ yes he is, no miracle there yet “ bloody idiot!!

@NotLinkedInSnowedIn

Um sweetmoon you are being obtuse. For a start you are spared commuting and paying for sandwiches and coffees

I don't think obtuse means what you think it means...