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Moany baby- moany mum

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Cheekylittlenumber · 06/03/2018 16:50

Posting for traffic. My DD2 is 5 months and EBF. For the last 6+ weeks her night time sleep has gotten worse (4th month sleep regression no doubt) She's gone from 5/6 hour stints to up every hour and a half. I'm exhausted.

Day time isn't much better. I have a 3,5 year old too and I can't keep the rocking baby to sleep during the day.

She's just so moany during the day even if she sleeps well. I don't know if I'm not making enough milk due to tiredness but she has plenty of wet/dirty nappies. She just has such short windows of being happy, I never have a moment to myself.

I hate not knowing why they cry, and hate to think she might be hungry (for either a bottle or solids perhaps?)

AIBU to start her on a bottle or two? I'm going back to work in a few months so was going to wean in April but feel I can't cope with the no sleep. I also feel trapped- we've just moved house and I can't do anything without her attached to me. She struggles to settle with in laws who were staying with atm or even DH.

I wanted to do 6 months EBF and feel guilty aboit stopping early especially as I couldnt bf DD1 (tongue tie and many latch issues)

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TittyGolightly · 06/03/2018 16:52

Is she teething?

TittyGolightly · 06/03/2018 16:53

Day time isn't much better. I have a 3,5 year old too and I can't keep the rocking baby to sleep during the day.

In fairness, that isn’t your baby’s fault.

Can the baby be bounced to sleep?

teraculum29 · 06/03/2018 16:54

speak with your HV about feeding and maybe she is also teething?

MySockIsWetAgain · 06/03/2018 16:57

Do you use a sling - maybe being carried on you would make her feel more secure and happy?

I'm sorry you're feeling this way - it's terrible if they cry all the time and so crushing when you can't seem to do anything to calm them. It will pass. 4mo sleep regression ia terrible!!

Cornettoninja · 06/03/2018 17:06

I would guess teething too. My dd took ages to cut a tooth and was definitely teething well before the first two popped through bang on six months.

I think ibuprofen is best for teething but I'm not sure how old they have to be?

How close is she to six months? Would you consider weaning so she could gum something distracting?

You have my sympathies and hope this passes quickly. Ear phones and your favourite music playing in one ear?

GummyGoddess · 06/03/2018 17:08

It won't do her any harm to have some bottles, but I didn't find that helped dc sleep anymore than he already was. He woke every 45 minutes for months.

Cheekylittlenumber · 06/03/2018 20:43

Thanks everyone. Yes could be teething. We bought every teething thing under the sun the other week (anbesol, those teething granules, a teether ring, ibuprofen) but not sure what worked, think it calmed her down for a bit but nothing noticible.

DH packed my sling and harness in the move- she especially likes the harness and I miss being a bit hands free!

DD2 is very windy (smelly farts!) so wasn't sure if she has a gastro issue? DD1 wasn't as moany as this as far as I recall.

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Theresasmayshoes11 · 06/03/2018 20:49

You poor love. I would do what you think feels right. Get your dh to give her a bottle of you want and get some sleep. Stop feeding if you want you don’t need anyone else’s permission.

In my day 80s/90s mine were on 3 meals s day by 4 months and I know advice has changed but my dgc was just like you describe after sleeping well and my ds and dil started a few solids, GPs idea and she settled better. My dil then stared to bottle feed and she got some sleep as ds/us/her parents could take over for a bit.

Bambamber · 06/03/2018 20:51

If her nappy output is fine I very much doubt supply is an issue, although you could still try a bottle to see if it helps. Combi feeding can potentially lower your supply so I think it's recommended you express when baby has the bottle. And don't feel guilty if you do bottle feed, your e doing what's best for your baby

Have you noticed her wind being worse after you've eaten any particular foods?

Bambamber · 06/03/2018 20:52

Oh and also look into paced feeding if you do introduce a bottle

GoodMorning1 · 06/03/2018 20:58

Is she ready to start on solids? I know HVs say six months but i

Theresasmayshoes11 · 06/03/2018 21:03

And again op you do what feels right for you

TittyGolightly · 06/03/2018 21:06

Is she ready to start on solids?

Food contains less calories than milk so that’s likely to cause even more issues!

Littleoakhorn · 06/03/2018 21:21

I remember 5 months old being a challenging time for my two. I think it’s just developmental. It got easier once they could sit unaided and was even better when they could crawl. I think feeding solids is a bit of a red herring - the calories don’t change much at all.

MySockIsWetAgain · 06/03/2018 21:22

If she has ok nappies, then your supply must be good. I would also worry about adding formula to the mix of a teething baby with lots of wind.

Can you rent a sling from the local sling library until you find / unpack yours?

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