To start getting annoyed that I keep being left out at work!

[Peachyfizz]

I've been working at my current place almost 3 years. A year of this was maternity. Since coming back I felt i fitted back in well. Although there are some things that have started to get to me.

I'm PT and work 2 days a week. I was left out of secret Santa this year. An email got sent to everyone apart from me.
A guy who I've sat with since I started is leaving at the end of the month. He also has a child so we talk about them. Anyway found out he sent an email to my whole team announcing his leaving date apart from me, someone had to forward it onto me when I asked when he was leaving. Then today 2 colleagues were discussing a social event which had been arranged without me knowing.
Just starting to feel I'm not part of the team. Most don't have children and I sense sometimes they don't like the fact I only work 2 days a week. Wish I could but childcare is so expensive and I'm a single parent.
So AIBU to be annoyed? I know they are small things but It would be nice to feel a bit of a team

That’s a bit crap. I think it happens a lot when you’re a part timer on a team of full timers. I wonder if maybe they just think you won’t want to because of home commitments or whatever.
Why don’t you organise something and include everyone so that it’s clear you want some involvement then go from there.

I make it known that I will come to social events. Tbh I get lonely so it's nice to be invited to something!
I actually did organise drink and it went well and they said thanks for organising.
I want to progress in my career but I just can't atm and I want to feel a part of the team but they just make me feel like I have it easy only in 2 days so have nothing to worry about. It's tough

There's a lady in my office who is only in 2 days a week and to be honest I don't know her from Adam because she's never here. I doubt it's deliberate. Your hours are very low.

Have you asked colleagues why you're excluded?

Maybe they don't realise it bothers you.

Check you are on the mailing lists that cover 'everyone' - people often just reply to previous mass emails so if you weren't on the list you will still miss out. Ask someone to let you know about group emails to confirm you're getting them.

No I haven't asked but I think the girl who sits opposite me knows I was a bit annoyed. I know I only work 2 days but it's not hard to make someone feel a part of the team. I'd hate for someone to feel left out. This is why I tried to include the new girl as it seemed she was also being left out

Have you asked someone if your name has been missed off the group email?

I know I 'forgot' a colleague for a while simply because I forgot to add her to my email group. She had the weird experience of me being nice and friendly to her face on a daily basis then ignoring her for all sorts of departmental and social situations. It took her ages to pluck up courage to say something.

I apologised and sent out an email asking everyone to check their group listing, explaining why I was asking. Twas very embarrassing for a while

Check you are on the mailing lists that cover 'everyone

This ^^

I once had a colleague get in a lot of trouble at work for not actioning a new guideline. (Think medical with patients)
When they spoke to her about it she said she had never read that guideline.
Turns out her email address had missed off and she's missed many an important email.

We have a general group listing which i am apart of. Today another invite got sent from the guy who was leaving and again I missed off. He had individually added people and not the group email. However everyone was there expect me.
It was only because they were talking about drinks and food I asked the girl opposite what was happening and she forwarded me the email.
I forwarded the email to the guy and said oh didn't know you were leaving? He did then invite me along but I feel like was there a reason I was left off the email??

Then there probably is a reason - and it may well be that your short hours is that reason.

You might just have to live with that, unpleasant as it may feel. But you never know, this incident may make the rest of them realise their error.