To ask what you do when you just have nothing in common?

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I've been married to my DH for 5 years. His brother and wife have been married for 7 or so years. I've tried to get on with them and ostensibly we do but I just find them hard work. They moan if you don't pay them enough attention and they've blocked my DH and I on Facebook and Instagram because of a silly disagreement over dinner....I have to add that I wasn't present at this dinner. This dinner was two years ago and I just feel tired of them. I live a really quiet life with my DC and DH and I've had the same friends since primary school (I'm 36 so quite a while) and I just find the drama with my BIL and SIL odd. They don't show any interest in Anyone else's life but we're expected to be interested in theirs. I just find myself a bit uneasy and exhausted in their presence if that makes sense?

WWYD?

Is there any reason why you need to have anything to do with them?

I'd keep contact to a minimum - ignore the social media blocking (which sounds like it's designed to create drama), be pleasant and breezy when you do see them but keep chat superficial.
Don't be reeled in for more. Sounds like you have a lovely life and don't need this. I wouldn't either.

bum our kids get on and that's fine. We see them at MIL and FIL's house every couple of weeks and I just dread it.

whirly i just have a really normal life. Rarely any drama and I've had my friends for over 30 years. I really feel like the social media thing was laughable but what can you do? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Just look at them as distant acquaintances you only see at other family events. Don't bother to ask about their lives if they don't about yours. It's not worth the headspace.

Do you go to your PIL so that your DC can play with your cousins or to visit your pIL and your BIL/SIL just happen to be there? How long are you there for?
If it's an informal visit to PILa house could you just put TV on so nobody feels they have to talk? Could your DH go with the DC and you do something else?

DH and I tend in the main to see our own family's separately unless it's a special occasion

Life is too short to bend over backwards for drama queens, if they were friends you wouldn’t stand for it, don’t see why it should be any different just because you’re related.

Retreat and regroup with those who really matter

apples

My DH likes to go round for dinner with the kids and there are only so many times I can come up with an excuse to duck out. It's a strange situs because it just feels so strained

*situation

They are family so you can't avoid them, but just drift pleasantly into occasions with them, knowing you don't care about them and try to ignore their petty shit. We have been through some disagreements with various family and it always just blows over. You don't have to be mates

Ignore them quite frankly, they are hard work. Xx

I had a sil like this. Note had. Never speak or see her, dhs choice and life is better. She was always one for blocking on social media or writing indirect statuses, she was horrible and life is better without her in it

I have 7 SIL's and we all get on well, apart from one. Her and her husband are just awful, they don't like any of us but seem to think we should love and adore them. They show up less and less though which frankly is a relief but also a shame.
There isn't a lot you can do if you want to keep family harmony, other than be polite and not go out of your way to spend time with them.