AIBU to hate my dad?

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Today whilst watching TV, two men kissed and my dad genuinely said "yuck". AIBU to detest him over this?

Clearly this is not the first disgusting thing he's said! 😤😷

Your dad's entitled to his opinion. He probably wouldn't kiss another bloke.

Get over it and work on having a relationship with him. I would give a kidney and some other stuff to have another day with mine.

Yes very u. I hate seeing those sucky noises kisses on tv. Literally. Yuck! Get over yourself. Surely there are some positives to your own dad??

Yabu and extreme.

YABU. I don’t like anyone being too kissy on tv. Man and woman, woman and woman, man and man. It’s cringey.

YABU, I would have thought 'yuk' to anyone kissing on TV.

It's really not a spectator sport.

Unless you think he's genuinely homophobic for other reasons, I wouldn't give it a second thought.

I would imagine a lot of men feel like that, women too Lots of people don't like to see heterosexuals snogging each other on tv either.
If you hate your dad for that, you have more problems than he does.

Yes, I thought it was clear that he said yuck because it was two men, not because he dislikes seeing kissing. It was a slight peck, not that that makes a difference. He is homophobic, and racist.

Yes you are. People do t have to enjoy seeing two men make love. my dad is dead and was a wonderful enlightened intelligent man who would not have enjoyed seeing two men kiss.

You’re being a dick.

OP you aren't being a dick and I'm surprised so many other posters are fine with homophobia (although perhaps I shouldn't be given the type of views you sadly often see on this site).

Expressing hostility to gay people isn't just an opinion in the way that 'I don't like Brussels sprouts' is. It's an expression of the fact that you don't think all people are equal. It's a sign that you think certain groups are less worthy of tolerance and respect. Those are serious ideological statements and there is no law that says you have to ignore them just because they come from someone close to you. If this is a pattern of behaviour from your father I can absolutely see why it would make your relationship with him very difficult.

Yep - YABU. And you're being just like him; He's intolerant of men kissing. You're intolerant of his out-dated opinions. The difference is, he's your dad. Those men on TV are nothing to you.

I get where you're coming from; my dad was racist, and I called him out every time. He's dead and gone now, and I'd give anything to tell him off again.

I wouldn't hate someone for thinking hateful things. It is hateful to be homophobic though.
I wouldn't be around someone who couldn't keep their hateful thoughts and opinions to themselves. I had a racist family member. They were told that if they ever expressed those opinions in my house or round my kids then they would never come back under my roof or see my kids again.

YANBU. He’s probably making a point. In our house we make slurpy noises whoever kisses on tv. :)

Dreadful comment. My dad often said horrible stuff- he learned not to in front of me because I'd call him out. I'd give anything for him to be still around. He died before I met dh and before my dd was born.
Put up with it. Call him out on it. Whatever. Cherish your Dad unless you have a good reason not to. This isn't it.

Nice to see homophobia alive and well in mumsnet .... arseholes

Not everyone Blank. Not everyone.
It's not ok. Ever.

Expressing hostility to gay people isn't just an opinion in the way that 'I don't like Brussels sprouts' is. It's an expression of the fact that you don't think all people are equal.

Depends what you mean by "hostility". You can find watching homosexual acts repulsive - but at the same time absolutely respect someone else's right to his own sexual preference. In the same way that you can find eating sprouts repulsive, but would still respect someone else's right to pile his plate high with them.

Hate is a strong word.

My grandmother was homophobic, racist and judgmental over a lot of things. It drove me up the bloody wall and we'd argue if she verbalised it.

BUT I couldn't hate her. She grew up in a different time and wasn't educated on the subjects we are thankfully far more enlightened in these days.

I really disliked her outdated views, and I couldn't let them go unchallenged. But at the same time I knew it wasn't really her fault.

Hopefully in another few generations time, all of this will be gone.

Finding the sight of two other men kissing to be unpleasant does not equate to a loathing of, or intolerance toward, homosexuality. It can be merely unappealing to the eye, that's all.

He's obviously gay

Get over it and work on having a relationship with him. I would give a kidney and some other stuff to have another day with mine.
The thing is some peoples parents are arseholes.
My Dad is awesome, but my egg donor (who I've been NC with for 25 years) is a cunt and I can't wait to get the call she's dead. I've seen similar comments to yours about mothers on another thread this evening. You can't tar all parents with the same brush, good or bad.

Would it have been ok if he said "yuk" to a man and woman kissing?
Perhaps he just doesn't like to watch people kissing on TV. Many don't.

Thanks Topsy and blank, I appreciate maybe the post did seem extreme (didnt mean to drip feed as I thought it'd be obvious I was referring to his homophobia).
He is homophobic and racist, he has been a bully to me and my mum for most of my life.
Obviously times change, but I have challenged him and tried to inform him many times but am told to "respect" his opinions which I just cannot do.

No. He needs to respect you by keeping his hateful opinions to himself. TBH I would be NC by now.

I'd hate that too OP. I'd think less of my dad if he acted in such a homophobic manner.

he has been a bully to me and my mum for most of my life.

So the homophobic comment was the straw that broke the camels back? Fair enough.