I know iabu and it's not my business but I need to vent

[Walkaboutwendy]

When you see people posting loved up pictures and you know the guy is a serial philanderer.

No proof but have seen enough over the years to know what the score is. Can't tell her as it would blow her world apart and there's nothing tangible as he is an opportunist when he's away.

But it just sets my teeth on edge seeing the image she's portraying that they are so in love when you know he's a player.

Just wanted to rant on here really. Nothing to be done. Doesn't normally bother me but just seen numerous loved up pictures from Paris. They've been married years and have almost adult kids and I've known them a long time. He's always been like this. I've gone through periods of thinking maybe she knows deep down, maybe they have an open marriage. Then I chastise myself that it's not my business.

Anyone else been in this situation?

She might well know and put the pictures up to convince herself and others that it's not that way. She might know and that's the way they both like their relationship. She might have no clue. Everyone is different.

You sound a bit jealous though. Why would someone else's portrayal of their life affect you?

are you saying you know a friends husband cheats on her but you never told her?

I can understand why you would think I'm jealous but it's not that. I guess I'm more angry really. My friend is a cancer survivor and went through a very very dark time. There's no way I could bring myself to cause her pain. I guess that makes me a coward

Saorsie I've seen him behave inappropriately over the years and he made a pass at a friend of mine years ago. She doesn't want to say anything so it's not really my place to. He travels a lot and you can just pick up on things hearing him talk knowing how he is. There's no proof though.

Maybe she knows all about it and doesn't care. I had a partner who slept with plenty of other people. I knew all about it and didn't care. Doesn't mean I didn't enjoy his company or our holidays together. And it would have been weird if someone had "informed" me.

So you don't know the guy is a serial philanderer at all then?

That's what I thought blue maybe it's an open relationship and she doesn't care. My gut feeling though is that it isn't based on things she has said.

I should just forget it shouldn't I and chalk it up to not my business?

If you mean have i seen him with my own eyes having sex with multiple partners then of course not. But I know enough to know he isn't faithful. Not going into details.

This is 100% not your business, and you have ZERO proof that he's a cheater. Frankly, he could simply have a flirty personality and your friend could have misinterpreted his behaviour. You don't throw a grenade into someone's life without irrefutable proof, and you don't have it. Not by a long shot. Mind your own affairs.

Thanks Aqua that is exactly what I needed to hear. You are right it's not my business.

Btw I would never throw a grenade into her life given all she's been through. I just couldn't do it.

I guess just seeing pictures made me think of all the things over the years. He was caught sneaking out of another woman's hotel room early in the morning so I really doubt it's just a flirty personality but as you say not my business.

Thanks for the head wobble

I wasnt proposing any action btw. I just had an emotional reaction of anger i suppose. It got me thinking that cheating has such wide ripples.