..to expect Dh to have made just a little effort....

[CalebandDylansmummy]

...to acknowledge my birthday even if he has been out of the country all week?

Was away from Sunday til yesterday and my birthday was Thursday. My birthday is on the same date every year and he knew for four weeks that he was away for it, but he didn't even leave a card. Don't expect presents and he did call once while I was on school run and then in the afternoon. But he hasn't really mentioned it since he came back.

I also had DS3 ill all day yesterday and was quite worried about him.

Feeling quite sad about it really, is that stupid?

No I'd feel sad about it too
You're not being unreasonable at all

you should have snuck out with your friends instead

Wish I had now D didn't settle well so felt I should be with him. Sounds like you had a fab time tho!!

I think he is a rotter.

it was good we missed you though
we'll have to do another night when he is away and come over to you!

No, you're not being unreasonable.

Hope DS3 is feeling better today

Trying to be reasonable about it FFF, tis hard though Just feeling a bit unloved atm. Obviously I am just being a grump today!

Whoops he is in Turkey in a couple of weeks so we will do it then!

Can't you insist he takes you out tonight to celebrate?

RR he is a lot brighter today, thankyou. It's an ear infection, but he hit his head on Thursday night so it worried me lots more.

We sadly don't have babysitters nearby, family 2 hrs away and MIL just had a major op so can't ask her to come up. Also kind of don't feel it should be up to me to arrange it.

I dont think it should be up to you either but clearly he doesnt think you're bothered (or does he know you are bothered and is still doing nothing?) You don't have to go out for him to make an effort, you could stay in, play games, watch a film, have a few drinks, have friends over and make sure you have a long lie in tomorrow while he sorts dc's.

We didnt go out for my birthday last year we invited everyone round for a cocktail party.

Um, I haven't been the most cheerful person ever today so surely it wouldn't take a enius to work out why. I really don't expect to be treated like a princess, but it kind of upset me that the first thin he said when he arrived home was that he was tired as he'd been up since 5.30. Then I became even more annoyed when he seemed surprised that I do that EVERY day (we have early birds here) sometimes earlier. Surely he's noticed that!!!!

Didn't need anything from him, just a kiss and cuddle and a sorry I wasn't here for your birthday would have done!