To not want DP to work 6 days

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Everyday up at 5am and getting home around 7.30pm.
Its physical work and I think too much for him.
Saturday annoys me because he is home too late if we want to plan a night out and he is always tired and a achey.
Aibu.

If the alternative is to starve and freeze in the gutter, yes. DW didn't like it when I worked 11 days out of 14 in the 18 months after DD was born. But there was no choice.
The partners of HGV drivers, farmers, servicewomen etc. on here put up with the workload because they have to. Or they leave.

Is there more to this? Surely he’s not working - what - at least 60 hours a week for shits and giggles!

7.30 on a Saturday is not too late to go out at all, anyway. Just need to be organised about it.

I'm the wife of a fireman.
When he is on days he leaves at 530am and will get home at 730pm.
That's when it's a normal day.
However, with this weather his days have been a lot longer.

Why is your DH working all these hours? If he is doing these hours he does need to rest, the work life balance doesn’t sound right. If it’s for money can you share the load?

Is he in construction?

YANBU to think a regular permanent schedule of 6 days a week of 14 hour days is too much - especially if it is a manual/physical job - as there is zero work/life balance and your DH is at risk of burn out if hes not getting adequate rest and one day a weel is not enough on that schedule.

However I also can't believe that any decent company would set that kind of schedule and expect it to be workable long term so surely there is more to it?

Is ths a short term thing due to a work project/overtime? Does he have a rolling shift pattern (e.g. 6 days/6 nights/6 off) or a long commute (so his day is actually only 10 hours with a 2hr commute either side) that is making this schedule look worse than it is?

In our 20's DH and I worked in different industries 6 days a week. Now in our 40's I'm not sure I could do it now. But it made sense at the time.

Need a bit more info here...
Do you have children that he never sees? Are the hours necessary to keep a roof over your heads? Are his working patterns causing any actual issues at home other than he’s too tired for a night out? Who is setting these hours- him or an employer? etc. etc.

The travelling makes it a longer day.
He works in construction and they do work 6 days no children we are both in our forties.

Could you afford it if he worked less? Could he look for another job?

We can survive on 5 days and it's a case of he would probably work just 5 but the employer needs 6.

Yes we can afford it I also work

Then the only option is to look for another job that has a working pattern of 5 days.
I agree it’s too much if it’s constant 6 days. I work in construction and 6 days isn’t uncommon but they do sometimes get the full weekend off
And it’s dependant I’m workload.

DH is in construction and I'd say at least 50% of the year he works 6 days a week. He leaves at 5.30am and gets home anywhere from 7.30pm to 11pm. He's actually sometimes slept in the cabin overnight if there's been a late concrete delivery and it needs a specialised finish. It is one of these things that you sign yourself up for when your DP/DH is in the industry. It's a pain in the backside sometimes but it is what it is. I don't think it'll be too hard, however, for him to find an employer who asks fewer Saturdays of him. I'm not sure what is specific trade is and what sector of construction he works in so I can't advise more but some areas work more Saturdays than others.