AIBU to ask family members to remove photos of my baby on Facebook

[nocturnalnightmare]

Maybe I am being unreasonable as I know most parents are happy to have the odd pic on social media but it worries me slightly. When my dc was born (about a week later, it wasn't a priority) I put a photo on, you couldn't see their full face and I didn't announce their name, weight or dob. I have a family member, who to be fair to them waited til my photo had been posted, who shares photos of my baby quite regularly and their name, exactly how old they are etc. Am I wrong in wanting them to stop. Also I know their profile isn't restricted to friends only like mine is. Would I look like a bitch in saying this? And if I do should I maybe remove the (pretty anonymous) photo from my page. Anyone had any similar issues with family?

Just ask them.

My MiL posts DS pics... I'd prefer if she didn't but I think she would be really hurt if I mentioned it. She's just happy and proud to have a grandchild. I leave it alone.

I think if you post your child's pic on the internet, you're fair game to be frank.

Having said that, your family member could at least ask!

I think it is okay to ask. My DD cannot be all over social media for security reasons, so family no they cannot post pics of her and if anyone does, it is the back of her head or a shot where her face is obscured. I do follow my own rules though too.
DS can be all over it and I have never asked them not to post.

I posted a similar birth one to you when DS was born, but I had made clear to my family ahead of the birth that I didn't want pictures of him on social media. I think just tell your family, it is your child and I'm sure they wont mind.

Absolutely not okay and you are totally within your rights to ask fothem it to be removed. Some people have adopted children, abusive ex partners, difficult family situations etc. and having a photo of their child on Facebook could be potentially disasterous. And regardless of that it’s just rude to post someone else’s child!

I would never post a photo of someone else’s child. Would never bother asking permission because it’s not worth the effort. SM is so ephemeral in people’s consciousness, but utterly permanent in fact.

Your own post would make me You’re announcing that you’ve had a baby - it’s about you becoming a mother, not about the baby itself. It’s this me, me, me element of SM that I hate. I love seeing other people’s children grow from babies to toddlers to little children and on. They’re kids and it’s lovely. But I don’t enjoy adults drawing attention to themselves.

In your shoes I’d take your own post down and ask anyone who puts photos of your baby on SM to take them down. It’s a consistent approach. It’ll be known in no time that you don’t want your child in SM. I think it’s a fair (maybe even wise) decision.

I don't think you are being unreasonable. My DH has an issue with photos of my DC being posted on social media, we just made our parents aware of his concerns in a general sense and they have never posted anything. We also don't post photos of DC on F.B.

I have this exact problem with sil posting pics of my dcs on fb. I do post occasional photos of my children but my profile has high security settings and I have my posts limited to friends only and I am only friends with people who I am actually friend with. Sil on the other hand likes to add random people she meets at the pub, (she has over a thousand 'friends') I'm going have to tell my sil not to put photos on of the children anymore but I know it's going to cause ww3 so not looking forward to that.

Tell them to stop.

I ask DIL every time before I post a picture. I show her the picture, ask her if she is ok with me/himself posting it on FB and then have it behind the friends lock.

I think it is rude to do it any other way, unless the parents have explicitly said they are ok with it.

Yanbu at all. You and your child have every right to privacy.