To just stop caring and sleep around?

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I'm drunk.

Heartbroken. Drunk.

I just want to let go of responsibility and wind up pregnant. Years of infertility.

Shall I just say fuck it? And sleep with a few randoms. Being sensible has got me nowhere happy in life.

Could you consider fertility treatment with donor sperm? This would be much safer.

Nothing against sleeping around, but sleeping around having unprotected sex, don't do it. Be safe.

You asked us because we'll probably say "no". You could end up with an STD or anything.

Drink some water, go to bed and come back and chat in the morning.

(((((((()))))))))))))) hug.
I'm so sorry you're feeling so down. Reading between the lines it is gather it's your dh who is infertile, otherwise. Why would sleeping around with others "help".
However I really do not think shagging other blokes will do any good. These blokes could have anything they could pass on to you. Rather than a pregnancy you may get something sinister, instead. Plus you'd have the guilty of cheating on your DP. However that said. I do get the yearning for a baby. It's not a want it's a need that can't be compared to any other.
Obviously I can't tell you what to do or what not to do with your body.

Holding your hand until someone more helpful comes along.

No my exH was an abusive bastard. He's gone. And taken my dreams of a family with him.

It's me with fertility problems

Yeah probably right it's bad idea... I just want to be that one who accidentally gets pregnant

No thinking no planning just oops

Seems risky. Don't do something you will regret, you'll just end up feeling worse in the morning.

Men are just bastards.

Get rid of abusive exH only to find myself with a man who despite being a therapist had the emotional intelligence of a fly. He dumped me.

I just fucking don't want to care anymore. I've cared too much all my life and I haven't got anything good from caring.

If I just stop giving a shit about things perhaps life will happen

Trust me, sleeping around is not going to help. Not to mention the STD issue, it makes you feel like crap. Plus, if you do get pregnant, you will have tricked someone into becoming a dad, which is not on - and I think you'll see that when you're sober. Have a lot of water, go to bed and start researching clinics to get in touch with in the morning. That's a much more sensible and safer route. Best of luck, OP.

Not got the money for clinics

Just fed up of hearing "oops I'm pregnant"

I don't even really have the option of tricking someone. Wish I did.

Fuck men

Not all men are bastards.

Having unprotected sex with random men in the hope of getting pregnant makes you sound like a twat to be honest.

What about the random man whose life you turn upside down by tricking him into fathering your child?

I think you need to sort your head out before you even think about having a baby!

Ah I hope you're ok. You sound so low

By all means sleep around but please don't wind up with an std.

How will she be tricking them. If they don't want to be fathers then they shouldn't have unprotected sex. Simple.

@ThisLittleKitty - I think the line is 'oh, we don't need to use a condom, I'm on the pill'. Most men are far more concerned about becoming a father than getting an STD.

OP, I promise all men aren't bastards and you won't always feel like this. And not everyone is "oops, I'm pregnant" - there are plenty of women who suffer with infertility but you just might not know. Please be kind to yourself and don't do anything that will make you feel worse. This to shall pass. It really will.

Should read 'this too shall pass' - stupid autocorrect.

It sounds like you’ve really been through it. You know that sleeping around isn’t the answer - I mean, do it if you want to, enjoy your sex life! - but be safe. If you have infertility problems it may not be the answer you’re hoping for anyway. Life isn’t fair sometimes.

Have you looked into fertility treatment on your own?

Hugs, I absolutely know what you mean about losing faith in men. I was with mine 15 years and he left me with a 4yo and a baby. So I have the DC but no husband. Sometimes life is so unexpected. It could still happen for you but I think you have to be properly proactive, not hope for an accident. x

The op hasn't said she is going to tell anyone she's on the pill unless I've missed it. Plenty of men don't care about having unprotected sex. Not that I think the op should do it but I also don't think "aww poor men being tricked."

Are you in the tight place mentally to be having a child? There's a whole life to look after once the pregnancy bit is done, and it's not one you can just go and get drunk on when it gets tough.

Look after yourself for now. Get yourself to a better place and then think about children.

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