To feel pissed off (work related)

[Mindhunter]

I work part time 5days a week. I am a single mum and save as much holiday as i can to cover holidays and have never taken time off for my children being sick etc. During the snow i have made my way in every day making last min arrangements for childcare etc. Anyway my car broke down the other day so i called my boss to say i would be late as would be getting the bus in. He said "dont be silly stay home and get it sorted and we will see you tomorrow." I came in the next day and all was fine he asked what was up etc. Then two days later he walks in and asks "so when are you making that time up you were off". I pointed out that he said not to come in and he said that he was expecting me to come in. So now ive got to get childcare to make up the time as i cant afford to lose holiday. Aibu to be a bit pissed off at this?

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YANBU. What an arse.

Did you think you were getting a free day off?

It sounds to me like he thought it would be ok but someone else (HR or higher manager) has said you’ve got to make it up.

Generally speaking you can’t have random paid time off. So in this instance your options are to take it unpaid, use a days holiday or make the time up.

Decide which of the 3 you want to do and have a chat with him.

YANBU - your manager should have been clear and professional about this. Instead of saying 'Don't be silly ...' an appropriate conversation would have been "Would you like to take today off and make the time up later?"

He is the top manager and we have no hr. I made it clear i was happy to come in but would be late as the bus goes all round the houses. I would havd made up what i was late but making up 5.5hours is different.

Say there has been a misunderstanding and that you were about to make your way in by bus. You understood him to mean take the day off as a gesture towards employer/employee relations.

If you knew he wanted the time making up you would never have taken the time off. Leave the ball in his court.

Or can you do any extra work at home?

Can you make it up gradually? Work through breaks etc

I don't get breaks as that was how i got to work short days. Its a little business and i know i should have asked him to clarify. I will talk to him again about having it unpaid as it will probably be less of a loss than paying for 3 childcare places.

I can see why you're narked but this could have been avoided if you'd spoken up at the time.

Can you identify some work that you can do from home in the evening to make up the time? Or yes ask to take it unpaid. Both seem reasonable options. It doesn't sound malicious on his part.