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About noise from neighbours?

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LucyITSkyWDiamonds · 03/03/2018 22:31

Probably an important point here - I'm currently living in student accommodation.

Obviously I'm not expecting other students to be completely silent every minute of every day, but I feel like they're just taking the piss now.

I'm really lucky with the people I live next to, but those living above and below me are a completely different story. The guy living below often plays music incredibly loudly, I can hear it in my room as if I was playing it out loud here on occasion. Nowhere else in the building seems to be able to hear it, I assume it's just the ceilings that are completely crap at blocking noise.

The girl who lives above, well idk what she's doing as she is completely tiny, but is often banging around as if she is just jumping up and down in her room. Or she has people in her room and they're laughing and screaming and being general loud teenage girls.

The official university policy is that there are quiet hours between 10pm-7am. There is nothing about the other 15 hours. I've spoken to a few friends about it and the opinions seem to be split between 'you should be able to relax/study in your room without disturbance all the time' and 'there are no noise rules during the day, if you want somewhere quiet then go to the library'.

Am I being unreasonable to say something to them? I don't want to be the boring girl who ruins all their fun, particularly as I can often hear the girl above talking to friends in her room, but it does really annoy me. I think I may go speak to them if they're noisy past 10pm again, but should I just leave it during the day? Nobody else seems to have the same problem and I don't have any official policies to back me up, but it's doing my head in! Angry

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issy196 · 03/03/2018 22:45

Uni accommodation is a tricky one but I'd say if they're being loud enough to cause you significant disruption, talk to them. Even if it's the middle of the day. Obviously there's a balance and if it's minimal, I'd advise just leaving it, but perhaps they just don't realise how loud they are being.

I struggled with a similar situation at uni for a while and was terrified of going up and confronting someone about it, but most people are actually really nice and won't have a problem with it, especially if it's just a case of turning down the music volume slightly.

Good luck!

madeyemoodysmum · 03/03/2018 22:48

Ask politely but try earplugs and noise cancelling headphones to keep your sanity. I have misophonia and I hate this sort of noise. Sympathies

AnathemaPulsifer · 03/03/2018 22:53

If it's during the day you need to use earphones and suck it up. Horrid though :(

RandomMess · 03/03/2018 23:08

I have a tiny very light 12 year old (1 of 4 DC) she stomps around with such noise I think the ceiling will cave in. You have my utmost sympathy I often wish I could live alone in a detached property!!!

Noise cancelling headphones would be a worthwhile investment I think.

littlemissrain · 03/03/2018 23:11

Definitely tell them to be quiet - my daughter has had a similar issue and I've told her that these aren't people in her friendship group so it doesn't matter what they think of her.

Also, have you tried white noise? My daughter often plays that through her beat headphones, and is then able to concentrate as it drowns out any changing noises.

LucyITSkyWDiamonds · 03/03/2018 23:26

Thanks everyone. Unfortunately I lost my Beats headphones over Christmas, which were really good at drowning out the noise. Tempted to buy some new noise cancelling headphones if I can find some on sale, student budget is a bit tight!

I usually play quiet relaxed music while studying or just in my room, I've found myself listening through earphones recently and turning the volume up loud. It drowns out the noise, but isn't so relaxing and I find that my ears feel a bit sore if I wear earphones for more than a few hours.

Going to look at earplugs, think they are an essential in uni accommodation.

Don't think it helps that I grew up in a detached house in the middle of the countryside as an only child. Definitely miss the peace and quiet!

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madeyemoodysmum · 04/03/2018 09:10

I find the yellow ones the best at noise reduction. On amazon you can get packs of 25 for a few quid. I can't even hear someone in the same room speak when I wear them.

Pop in yellow ear plugs on amazon and it should come up You can wear the same ones for a good few weeks so they last ages.

For any birthdays coming up. Time to get new headphones on the list.

Ansumpasty · 04/03/2018 09:16

You may find that if you ask them to be quiet during the day, they act like dicks about it and are louder.
I think noise/parties/posters of Borat in the window wearing the mankini/the sounds of drunk vomiting teenagers is just part and parcel of student accommodation, sorry!
That's great that it's quiet at night time because I know a lot are not. I wouldn't want to be THAT neighbour who gets condoms posted through her door so I'd be tempted to go the library during the day and not say anything, sorry!

scaryteacher · 04/03/2018 10:03

Ds used to bang on the wall when he could hear the bloke in the next room having noisy sex. He used to grin at the girl and comment on the noise levels. It stopped eventually.

Aquamarine1029 · 04/03/2018 10:37

On the bright side, this experience should motivate you to save your money so you can afford to buy your own home in the future. I feel your pain, and I would be annoyed as well.

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