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To want a cleaner

28 replies

melclaire1111 · 03/03/2018 21:20

I know this proably seems really trival but it's been bugging me for ages.

Dh and I both work full time & have Dd who is 2. Dh works shifts, I work mon-fri. Neither of us have much time at home that doesn't involve looking after dd, housework or trying to sleep.

I do the majority of housework (cooking, washing up/drying up), clothes washing and putting away, changing bed etc. Dh gets more tine off than me due to shifts and doesn't really do a lot.

I really feel like we would benefit fron having a cleaner. Not everyday, or even every week but a couple of times a month just to help with the bits i don't get chance to do (properly cleaning the bathrooms etc, at the moment I try and do them but it's usually a rub down with baby wipes at a weekend when Dd naps).

Dh is dead set against it and won't hear of it. Today we were sorting something in a spare room when we both noticed some dust in the window sill and he commented it wouldn't be that bad if i dusted every now and then. When I challenged him and said why was it up to me he answered with cos it's not my job!

Just getting fed up of trying to keep the house tidy on my own I guess and so many people I know have said a cleaner makes a world of difference!

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KatharinaRosalie · 03/03/2018 22:05

Wow he's a bit of a twat, isn't it. Easy to be against a cleaner if he doesn't do any cleaning and thinks it's your job.

You want a cleaner, you get a cleaner. He can do his half himself if he doesn't want one. Just make sure his half is something that mainly inconveniences him.

FinallyHere · 03/03/2018 22:05

While I am a big fan of having a cleaner, if you have a partner who acts like this When I challenged him and said why was it up to me he answered with cos it's not my job! you have a problem which will be masked, rather than solved, buy having a cleaner

Are you really going to leave his view unchallenged?

PositivelyPERF · 03/03/2018 22:06

This is so depressing. I'm 50 and my husband would never have been as lazy and selfish as that. He did as much as me.

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