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To ask for a cup of tea?

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hoppingmad1 · 03/03/2018 20:37

My DH has just stomped off in a strop because I told him he was lazy and selfish.

I am 12 weeks pregnant with our second baby. We had an almost 2 year old toddler and I'm a SAHM. He works full time Mon-Fri.

We take it in turns to have a lie in at he weekends. Today was his day so he laid in until 9am while I was up at 6 with DD. We had a day at home today, and as we've not been able to get out due to the weather she's been pretty full on! I've been rushed off my feet all day except for an hour when I had a doze on the sofa (I don't get much in the way of early pregnancy symptoms except for I'm really really tired) when DD was napping. I've also done all 3 meals for all of us today and all the usual daily cleaning/tidying. He's played with DD, and spent an hour and a half watching football earlier on. He did stop for ten minutes to brush her teeth before bed.

We've just been sat on the sofa watching telly when he got up to get himself some chocolate from the kitchen. I asked him to make me a cup of tea while he was up and you should have heard the huffing and puffing and 'for fucks sake' -ing being muttered. He brought it in and I said 'Thanks, but I'm so sorry it was such an effort, I'll do it myself next time!'

He had a bit of a grumble and said I was cheeky for asking him to make me a cup of tea! AIBU, really? I did snap and say it wouldn't bloody hurt him to offer as he knows how wiped out I am especially by the end of the day and that he was being a bit lazy and selfish. He's huffed off upstairs.

OP posts:
19lottie82 · 03/03/2018 20:38

Is he usually like that?

userabcname · 03/03/2018 20:40

YANBU. He sounds like an arse.

Idontdowindows · 03/03/2018 20:41

Wow, does he have form for that kind of behaviour?

PasstheStarmix · 03/03/2018 20:43

No hopping YANBU. Your DH was going in the kitchen anyway so it’s hardly taxing sticking the kettle on while he’s in there. I hope he’s more supportive than this the further along in pregnancy you get as looking after a toddler while pregnant is hard work.

TicketyBoo83 · 03/03/2018 20:44

I’m sorry your DH is such a dick ☹️

AdaColeman · 03/03/2018 20:47

He'd wait a long time for me to be making him cup of tea! Brew

Blackteadrinker77 · 03/03/2018 20:48

My goodness, why are you doing everything on the weekends?

When are your days off?

frasier · 03/03/2018 20:51

I don't understand being treated anything less than a queen when you're pregnant. I mean, free pass for everything in my experience. Am I unusual to think this? We did take many many years to get pregnant so perhaps I am. Even so, you're PREGNANT not lazy. Geez.

Blackteadrinker77 · 03/03/2018 21:03

I just got my husband to read this thread, his comment was if I huffed every time you asked for a cup of tea I'd never leave the bedroom Grin

As my user name suggests I'm a tea addict drinking around 12 a day, all made by my lovely husband Brew Halo

Hoppingmad1 · 03/03/2018 21:09

Erm, he's not usually quite this much of a dick no! He's still upstairs sulking.

He's generally pretty nice and normal! I didn't know if I was being a bit over sensitive.

My 'day off' is tomorrow although it's not a true day off in the same was his isn't really. I'll have a lie in tomorrow and he'll get up with DD and do everything until I'm up. Then we'll just share looking after DD. But yeah it's always me that cooks.

I might go on strike tomorrow.

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SnowBusinessLikeSlowBusiness · 03/03/2018 21:11

He should make you tea and you should both cook. Bit bemused that two adults find one two year old such hard work, but everyone is different.

CherryMaDeary · 03/03/2018 21:21

Ugh I wouldn't want to feed his ungrateful mouth. Please stop cooking for the twat.

buckingfrolicks · 03/03/2018 21:36

total prat - he is bvvu. What a selfish pillock!
If you cook all meals all week, what does he do at the weekend?

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