If you are a single parent

[Vanillabeaan]

How far do you live from your ex? Same town, 5 mins down the road? How far?

About 4.5 hrs drive. He chose to move away when we split, a decision I will never understand as I would be devastated to live that far from ds.

So far he visits once or twice a month, but it is very difficult and expensive for him, so I don’t know how long he’ll keep it up.

Although I could happily never spend another second with the man I do wish he lived in our town as ds would have a much better opportunity to have a good relationship with him, would be able to more flexibly pop over and things like that. As it is at the moment it’s very confusing for ds

2 hours on public transport, about hour and a half drive, but may as well be the other side of the world to him! Poor lamb says it’s to tiring making the journey more then once every 6-8 weeks when he’s been at work, coz you know, sitting on a train for a couple of hours is tough when you’ve been sat on your arse at work all week

15 minutes away.

This isn't where I want to live necessarily but he's a good dad and my dc benefits massively from having him nearby and involved.

I started a thread on here years ago actually, asking for advice on whether to stay in the area or move back to where my family are, 200 miles way, and the reactions were quite strong that it would be selfish to move away. Don't quite agree with that though, too simplistic. By staying here we have missed out on the support network my family would provide and we actually ended up homeless at one point (hellish) because this area is so not suitable for a single parent income.

I still, just about, think I've made the right decision but it isn't black and white - there would have been positives and negatives to both. You just have to weigh it up, make the choice and then make that choice work best you can.

Gosh, some of you live so far. I want to stay in the same town because of the DC school, but want to buy a house in another town once DC start secondary school in 6 years time. But that's only 30 mins away by car.

Over 2,000 miles

5 minute drive in the next town. Actually works well as we're close enough to share custody easily but we shop at different supermarkets etc so I dont ever 'bump' into him

For a while I lived 1,400 miles away from my ex when we split up he moved back to the UK for work while DD and I stayed in Spain. I had primary custody but DD still had regular holidays and visits to and with her dad and they chatted on skype/FaceTime-ed at least a couple of times a week so they still maintained a good relationship despite the physical distance.

Now I have moved back to the UK too I live 15 miles from him and we share custody 50/50

Fifteen minutes away in bad traffic 🍷

It's okay though he only sees them for one every fortnight

About a 25 minute drive; but neither of us have ever moved. It was a teenage pregnancy and both of us remained with our parents.
I've now bought a house in my town and DS goes to school and activities here. Ex still stays at home with his mum and would never move closer.

He has just moved across the bloody road

Currently 4500 miles soon to be 150 miles but still different countries.

90 miles away. Which I think is rather shit, as there are no midweek overnights, or any help with school drop off & pick up. It’s hardly building a strong relationship with his kids either...

Just checked, 3,967.

Opposite sides of london. CAn take 2 hours by public transport as neither of us drive.

2 hours. He moved. But if I take DD abroad temporarily it's a major trauma

Amy85 bloody hell, why did he move across the road?

4,800. His choice, he moved last October. Plans to visit DD age 2 around 4 times a year.

A 20 minute car trip.

Half an hour away . He did live on the street behind when he first moved out as I was pregnant with dd2 at the time and wanted to be near .

If I stood in the garden and shouted he could probably hear me

He hasn't had regular contact for the last 5 years though

We exist in completely different realms with him being dead. Suits me.

A 3 hour train, 8 hour flight, a 40 minute taxi AND a 10minute speed boat away. Hallelujah!

About 40 miles but it's through a busy city so it's well in excess of an hours drive.

5 minutes drive apart. Regardless of who has them overnight I always do the school run and stbxh does the nursery run. I wouldn't want to be further apart whilst the dc are young

Initially 10 min walk, now 400 miles

He was crap at seeing dd when 10 mins away, no better now - but now it's my fault!