To hate all the Tupperware-esque invites that fly around our school gates?

[makkapakka]

Am I? Why, oh, why, oh why?

How do I politely put an end to the constant invites?

don't go?

i take it you don't want to come to my anne summers party next week then??

just say no thank you politely, nice to be invited to things

Don't go, if you refuse every time the invites will soon dry up. Flip side is you will miss out on the opportunity to mix socially with the other Mums.

And you also run the risk of not being invited to anything.

do all schools have this going on and do you all go?

the mums seem v divided re this!

there don't seem to be too many at our school - have been to a handbag/jewellry party which was a great icebreaker at the beginning of the term, other than that, just a few. always think it's nice to be invited though

we seriously have about one a week.

do you think it seems stand-offish to not go?

wow! is it a small school?
and no, I would understand peop;le not being able to go or make it
do yo ualways say no? it's not a bad thing

yes, small school - same 4-5 mums have the parties.

tbh I would go to some of them even for the social aspect, most of the time its just time to chill out have some wine, a chat and some nibbles.

Incidently I am a Body Shop consultant so I actually do the parties, at every party there is at least one person who doesn't buy anything,, she has just come for the social aspect, thats fine with me I would hate someone come and buy something their didn't particularly want or need.

I enjoy the social aspect of them too

We have a couple of things that rear their head every so often. But this is how I have made friends.

I was also invited to join a book club, came very close to saying no thanks too much on. They are a great bunch of women and we have a great laugh.

I told them at the last meeting that my SIL's DM is dying and I will have to go at short notice. They started carving up DS between them for school runs, if I had said no to the book club invite I would have missed out on that support.

Imho you should go to a few - it gives you a chance to mingle with other mums in a more relaxed environment.

I have had those parties myself - just to have a focus for a get together - groups do grow out of them - I think they are part of "norming" with a new peer group of mums, once you get into the "forming" part - where people find friends they tend to dry up and give way to smaller (possibly cliquey !) events - like drinks parties and dinner etc

To refuse all such invites might just mean you stay on the outside of the groups ! But if that's what you want to do......

oooh, see, I'd join a book club as it interests me.

suppose am just lazy as have good friends locally already.

God that's wrong - the parties are part of "forming" and they dry up during "norming" - where is my brain tonight ?