To be cross at teenager for eating

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On one hand. Thank goodness she eats. But venting. That pizza I bought for tea. Eaten as snack. Those spring rolls bought for tea eaten as a snack. I go to make tea - half ingredients gone. Then she won’t eat tea!

Can you send my DD back please

Ours does this despite many conversations about being considerate and respectful. I have to warn her DO NOT EAT XYZ. They are hungry at that age and active. I don't buy lots of snacks in weekly shop as they disappear in a couple of days. Now she has a part time job she buys her own treats and has to budget accordingly

I'm pretty envious of all these teens who eat, dd2 like her sister before her eats like a mouse and it's a constant worry of mine as to whether she has a tiny appetite or if I should be worried it's something sinister tbh.
I'd be annoyed though if a teen had eaten dinner as a snack without checking it was ok first.

Keep a separate shelf or cupboard especially for teen snacks. It works a treat and doesn’t have to be unhealthy. DS added to his own shelf from his part time jobs and it was clear what was teen snacking stuff and what was family meal stuff. He is a lean, rugby playing healthy person. It’s not sugary snacks he eats between meals - he just doesn’t eat massive portions of anything. Small and regular is healthy, so there is no encouragement to overeat Whatshallido.

DS1 (17) has never snacked. He makes himself lunch on days at home but just asks me what’s available for him to eat. I could have cupboards overflowing with crisps and cake and crap and it would sit there for months without DS1 touching it. (Alas I would eat it).

Post it notes are your friend here. Along the lines of "eat this and you will be killed" work best in our house .

what, teenagers who are growing, active and not overweight don’t need to think about limiting their food intake. No wonder so many girls end up with disordered eating if they’re being told to limit food for no reason.

Agree but it’s boys too, not just girls, who develop eating disorders.

Buy her the Teenager who came to tea :-)

My ds does this too. I've had to go out for cheese as he's scoffed it between me buying it at lunchtime and now.

I’m imagining you throwing pizza, spring rolls etc into a mixing bowl with other ingredients sorry, not helpful, can’t remember if this is chat or AIBU...

YANBU IF you have explained that she can eat xyz whenever she wants, but needs to ask about anything else as it might be for dinner. I don’t remember ever being specifically told that as a child, but always knew what was fair game and what wasn’t. Mind you, dinner was always of the ‘meat & veg’ variety, so it wasn't so much of an issue I suppose.

My 15 yr old ds will eat a whole punnet/bag of grapes in a sitting easily. Which is fab, until I fancy a bunch. The bread isle is my friend at the moment!

Thank you! As I said I am so grateful she does eat - she quite often tells me she skips lunch at school - but it’s the nutrition / timing that drives me crazy. She’ll cook stuff I was going to share (with veg/salad) eats it herself at 5pm. Then at 6pm obviously too full for tea. Then at 9pm will eat 4 spring rolls ( they were in for different days!). But great ideas for a snack shelf - and for notes saying hands off. Obv from her POV i’m Just crazy and should chill. Glad i’m Not alone though

I’m imagining you throwing pizza, spring rolls etc into a mixing bowl with other ingredients sorry, not helpful, can’t remember if this is chat or AIBU...

Pizza, spring rolls, chicken pieces and cheese bites is a favourite easy dinner here.

Scotlass - and that’s the other thing I think ‘right I need snacks so they don’t all the main meal food’ then I get a six-pack of crisps, biscuits - all gone in 2 days.

I've just had this argument with my husband, I put a chicken casserole in oven for our dinner. Chicken thighs, peppers, onions, mushrooms and potatoes. I'm low carbing so won't eat the potatoes. I put about twenty mushrooms in, which is a lot for two of us. So assumed from that lot he'd leave me some. It's just the two of us here.

I was still working when he served his. About half an hour later I went into get some dinner and he'd eaten every single mushroom. Every single one. He must have had to fucking search for them. Wanker.

I'm irrationally fucked off about it. I mean I made his friggen tea and he can't even fucking share. He then said he hadn't and tried to deny it. Forgetting our daughter wasn't here. Then had no answer when I asked him where the fucking mushrooms were then and who the fuck had eaten them.

Like a child he then declared he'd never eat a mushroom again. Twat. Who does that, when sharing a meal that someone cooked for you, someone you know is low carbing, to pick out every fucking mushroom and have it.

Petty but so frustrating.

Bluntness, he needs a mushroom shelf.

Blimey, no wonder so many kids/teens are becoming obese. Pizza and spring rolls as 'snacks. FFS.

Unless of course you don’t have mushroom for one.

My dd did this with a whole thing of mash. Annyoying but not the end of the world.

But spare and keep on freezer -oven chips, frozen pizza and veg.

Encourage the teenager to order in some snacks or accompany you shopping.

Pick your battles.

However, they must join family for meals, it at all possible IMHO.

To me the eating big snacks is not a biggie unless you really cannot afford it, or there are weight issues, in which case you do need a serious chat.

Buy spare.

Mine wouldn't even think of helping themselves to food like this, that is obviously for a meal, not a snack. Maybe teach her some manners get her to ask first. Why can't she have a sandwich and some fruit when she comes home from school - that should be enough to see her through to dinner.

I'd be distinctly unimpressed if mine behaved like this and they would be sent out to the shops to replace what they had eaten.

I also don't really get the need to have "snacks" in, but I don't eat crisps, biscuits etc, so it doesn't really occur to me to buy them. If mine are hungry they can have a sandwich or cheese and fruit and a cup of tea.

My teen eats like a horse at the moment, she would never eat anything that was obviously for dinner though, just snacks, breadsticks, crisps, biscuits, fruit, etc. She's allowed something as soon as she gets in from school but she knows it can't be much as I usually serve dinner between 5 - 5.30 so she has to be hungry to eat it.

I want the pizza and spring roll recipe!

I do know what you mean about teenagers though.
I always keep healthyish snacks around- so wholemeal bread, cheese, tomatoes, crackers, endless fruit, wraps,noodles, cans of beans, low salt tortillas, jars of jalapenos, cooked meat etc.
They don't snack on sweets , crisps or biscuits.

I really hate the phrase 'endless fruit'. Sorry.