To be annoyed at DH for saying putting DS to bed was a chore

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Just that really. DH isn't the most hands on Dad, which frustrates me a bit.

Recently he made a comment about putting DS to bed was a chore. We take turns and I enjoy putting him to bed so I find it a bit harsh..

He then said oh you know what I mean etc.

He will often occupy himself at the weekend with jobs, DIY, gardening etc which DS then can't join in with. How close should a 4 year old be with their dad?

I’m close with my DC but I find bedtime a chore. All the trying to wheedle 5 / 10 more minutes and messing around. It sounds like he takes his turn but then doesn’t do much else which is a problem though.

I would agree with him for a four year old. I used to glance at the clock every two seconds as it inched nearer to wine o'clock.

Just because you enjoy that aspect of parenting, doesn't mean everyone else does.

God it is a chore. I hate it.

I find it a chore. So I don’t object to the language. I’m tired by then and would like to be done with the day.

But the general avoidance of DS is an issue. And if you need to ask how close DS should be to his dad then something’s not right.

Love my kids but some evenings are harder than others. And I do it every night.

We don't have to be grateful for every moment of parenting. Some of it is tedious and frustrating. It is okay to share this with your partner.

On the other hand, he needs to do more with his son by the sounds of it and carry the load with you more fairly. Having a lazy partner breeds contempt for them.

your DS is 4. Why can’t he join in with diy/gardening?

And yes, bedtime is a chore.

I find it a chore too and bath time that's even worse. I just hate bath time.
There is a million things I love doing with my child but bathing her is not one of them.

Sounds like he could be more hands on though but does he avoid cleaning and stuff? Maybe some things he sees as women's work...there are too many men like that about.

I find bedtime a chore - maybe less so when they were little.

I find the activities kids can't join in with confusing - they definitely can garden. DH is main carer in our family and keen diy-er. DD's first word was 'hammer'.