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Original poster

To Tell DH not to ring in sick tomorrow?

24 replies

TruckersWifey · 01/03/2018 22:44

He's an HGV driver for a major supermarket.

Weather is forecast as worse than today, for tomorrow. He has a 30 min commute on rural roads just to get to work, before he starts driving all day.

OP posts:
PurpleDaisies · 01/03/2018 22:45

He shouldn’t phone in sickbut if he can’t safely commute in, he needs to speak to his boss and explain that.

Original poster
TruckersWifey · 01/03/2018 22:45

Bugger! AIBU to tell DH TO ring in sick. I was planning to write 'to tell DH not to go to work tomorrow'.

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dogmom666 · 01/03/2018 22:46

YABU he cannot safely commute in this weather and the add more he must drive all day.

dogmom666 · 01/03/2018 22:46

oops nevermind OP!

Original poster
TruckersWifey · 01/03/2018 22:47

Its not only the commute. Its the dangerous driving conditions while in his lorry too.

Last sick day was 7 years ago.

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PurpleDaisies · 01/03/2018 22:47

He shouldn’t say he’s sick if he isn’t.

Glumglowworm · 01/03/2018 22:50

I imagine employers will be highly suspicious of “sick” employees this week tbh. Even if they can’t prove anything they could hold it against him in the future.

If he can’t safely get to work then obviously he shouldn’t go in, but he should be truthful about the reason.

PhelanThePain · 01/03/2018 22:52

Well they’ll know he isn’t sick. He could ring and say he can’t get to work. That’s more likely to be believed.

DisgraceToTheYChromosome · 01/03/2018 23:02

He should say he can't get in. If he rings in sick, he'll go on the absence ladder. I worked for Tossco, and they were CUNTS about absence.
As for the dangerous conditions, he can take his night out gear and take it steady. I spent Tuesday night out after the blizzard closed the A1, and tonight I didn't go over 30 mph from Colsterworth to Withering because of the drifts. People overtook hooting: fuck 'em.

ferriswheel · 01/03/2018 23:05

Why were tossco mean? I thought they were the decent sort?

ilovesooty · 01/03/2018 23:05

I can't think there is any justification for ringing in sick. You don't stockpile sick days until you fancy using them.

To call and say it's too dangerous to drive is another matter.

DailyMailDontStealMyThread · 01/03/2018 23:06

You shouldn’t ring in sick when you can’t get in to work.

Can he leave early and go from there? Are you on red alert? If so, there should be something in place to cover this, surely?

DalekDalekDalek · 01/03/2018 23:08

If it's not safe to travel then he needs to tell them that. It's his decision. He shouldn't lie about being sick though. If they find some evidence that he is lying (he slips up and mentions not being able to get in, or tells someone what he was doing) then he could get in trouble.

BrendasUmbrella · 01/03/2018 23:11

Better to lie about road blockages tbh...

DisgraceToTheYChromosome · 01/03/2018 23:12

Not when I worked for them. They would understaff the Locals, so that the predominantly female staff were always getting injured or assaulted. In the larger stores, they'd refuse to provide PPE to temp staff. The haulage side was rife with bullying, wage shorts and bogus disciplinaries. I was threatened for refusing insecure loads, fitted up for taking compassionate leave, and finally left after getting six months worth of unsocial hours premium paid.

StillMedusa · 01/03/2018 23:25

No he shouldn't ring in sick, unless he actually is! He should attempt to turn up and be equipped with everything he needs in case he gets stuck on a night out.. HGV drivers usually continue unless the company decides it is too dangerous.

My dh is an HGV driver too...and yes it is worrying. But he always takes a complete kit for all eventualities ... getting stuck, sleeping out, etc etc . We also live out in the sticks and he will have to go veryvery carefully, so he went to bed extra early to ensure he has a long period of leeway to get there.

DisgraceToTheYChromosome · 01/03/2018 23:33

My firm have only two requirements: show up on time, and get round safely. When I rang on Tuesday night to say I was stuck, they asked if I was safe and warm, and wished me a good night's sleep. Today I ran three hours over plan; they congratulated me on getting back undamaged. Our northern depot has vehicles still stuck on the M62.

Littledrummergirl · 01/03/2018 23:35

Dh works in store in a supermarket. The police have advised not to travel. An employer has a duty of care. If the experts (police) have risk assessed and said it's unsafe to travel then they should not imo be sending any lorries out. This means they don't need him there as he will have nothing to do.
Dh has followed advice and stayed at home- it isn't essential that he gets there, They can catch up when the weather clears and people can safely get around. His life is worth more than their profit.

Yabu to say he is sick, yanbu to state current advice is to stay safe.

nancy75 · 01/03/2018 23:40

Maybe he’s decided to bury the next years worth of scripts, he’s had a quick read through & decided the best thing to do is put them 6 feet under & forget he ever saw them

cherish123 · 01/03/2018 23:42

Up to him. If he feels it's unsafe, he should not drive.

nancy75 · 01/03/2018 23:45

Sorry bet wrong thread!Blush

italiancortado · 01/03/2018 23:56

No to ringing in sick.

Yes to calling off due to current weather conditions.

meandmytinfoilhat · 01/03/2018 23:59

If he phones in, he needs to say that it's unsafe and he cannot get to the lorry depot. If he's paid, he will need to work an extra day or take it as unpaid.

numptynuts · 02/03/2018 07:48

My DH is an HGV driver. If OPs husbands employer is anything like some that have employed my DH over the years, they won't give a shiny shite about his driving conditions.

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