Toddlers in dirty nappies and not being changed.

[paranoidpammywhammy2]

I had visitors last week and their 2 children are both still in nappies. I provided a changing mat and facilities but both children were never promptly changed and the smell stunk the room out several times.

I had to keep telling them both that they needed changing. The baby was at one point going around with this bulging, bloated nappy hanging off his bum.

AIBU to expect parents to change nappies immediately. My daughter was never in a dirty nappy for very long if possible. She got nappy rash very badly and I would never let her sit in dirty or wet nappies.

I got really annoyed they kept delaying nappy changing. I felt they were both trying to get the other to do it and expected me to offer too.

I still feel guilty about an incident when Ds was about 2 and we were at a big outdoor party. Ds had a dirty nappy and we didn’t realise for about an hour as we were running about and playing and just didn’t realise. His little bottom was red raw from leaving it that long ONCE! It took a week to heal properly and was so painful for him.

Just a long weekend! It felt like much longer though. I felt like they were trying to leave me to look after their children at times. I invited them for a visit not to be their childcare.

I think it's really horrible to others in the room also and not just the children to delay changing dirty nappies.

They both should be out of nappies by those ages. Mine were both out by 18 months/22 months. Let's be honest, nappies are pretty grim! Does sound as though they're hoping other people will train their kids (or they're just lazy)

Sometimes you have to wait a while before changing because the child won't cooperate but that doesn't seem to be the reason here.

MammaTJ

I don't think I'm tactful enough to talk to them about any aspect of parenting. I wasn't impressed by a lot of what I saw and heard over the weekend. The nappy thing was probably the worst of it though.

The mum has had quite a few issues about people telling her what to do and the GPs seem to have been quite vocal about it.

I think it was the longest they've had without help from others, the grandparents do a lot of the care. I think they expected me to take over their role.

They are very hard working - not lazy people generally. Just maybe the parenting. I seemed to be the only one concerned for their children's safety at times.

I don't know how they manage when it's just them.

Well you got a glimpse of how they manage when it's just them - I would have been boaking.

I would be tempted to watch them for instances of neglectful behaviour and talk to the nursery if you know where it is.