To not want sex without affection

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DH has been miserable lately and has shown no affection for over three weeks. Today he caught a glimpse of me getting dressed and was like 'oh go on then' and started being all over me. I was a bit pissed off but played it cool and said ' I was only getting dressed'. That was that.

Thing is I do want to have sex with him but I am so annoyed by the lack of affection. I don't think it's right that he should just turn on the charm for sex.

I don't want to play games and with old sex but on the other hand o want some affection shown at other times before I decide to go there with him again.

What do I do?

Dont have a suggestion..... but im completely with you OP!

Talk to him?

Have you not bought up the recent lack of affection with him?

Laiste, yes I have and he's been a bit happier lately but the affection hasn't returned yet.

Perhaps physical closeness would return the affection? There is nothing like a post sex cuddle. If you wanted to I would have gone with it and if there was STILL no affection that's an issue.

If he's pestering then i'd say what you said here - you don't want to play games but don't want sex until normal services resume, basically.

If he's not pestering then i wouldn't bring it up to be honest. It sounds as if it was all over once you said no this morning. Is he sulking?

Laiste, no, not sulking but basically back to how he was before. It was like seeing a glimpse of the old dh and then taken away from me again.

Tell him how you feel!

up to you, but you could get caught in a rut of playing games here. It has only been a few weeks. Is there something happening thats affecting his mood?

I have the same thing going on OP.
I have no advice other than telling him this?

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Life's too short for waiting games. Tell him how you feel. Tell him you love him (if it's true) and that you wonder what's wrong and miss the old him. ect ect.