How soon do you go in to your DC?

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DS (14 months) had a bad night last night, woke up crying at 11pm and took ages to get him back to sleep. Cried again at 5.30 but let him settle himself. Very unusual for him to wake up.

He woke up again at 7am and I could hear him chirping away in his room. He wasn't crying, just shouting 'oi' making a little bit of noise. I didn't go in as I hoped he'd go back to sleep until his usual wake up time of 7.30/8 (sometimes even later). And to be honest, I just wasn't ready to get up. I'm a SAHM with work projects on the side and DH has been away with work 3 weeks out of the last 6, so I'm exhausted. No family nearby to help.

DH thinks I left him too long and should have gone in to him sooner. He didn't go himself because he was getting ready for work.

AIBU to have wanted to have left DS alone in bed, in the dark, just because I wasn't-- quite ready to start another long miserable day home alone with a toddler-- get up?

Yanbu at all.

If he’s not upset and it is not a time you consider desirable for morning why would you go in and reinforce that it is morning?

In your situation I would have left him until it was morning or he got upset- whatever happened first.

Although actually in my situation my DH would have gone in and said good morning to him and given him a quick cuddle if he was up anyway.

If he's not upset I wouldn't have gone in. It's good that he's confident to sit and chatter on his own.

My DS used to wake up and chatter to himself for a while when a baby, he was very capable of telling me when it was time to get up. My only question is if he woke at 7, how long did you leave him for?

We have a monitor on ds. He sometimes wakes up and just chats to himself for a bit. We leave that. When he wants us he calls for us and we go then. If he cries in the night we’d give him a minute to see if he sorts it himself then go. If he is going to settle it’ll be within a minute or so.

He’s been up at five the last few mornings so we may need to work on a gronclock or something...

If they aren't upset don't go in, if he wanted to get up he would of cried.

I did go in about 8 (I think) and he was asleep again, but it wasn't a deep sleep. His nappy was reeking so I did go in as soon as I heard him again.

Normally if we hear him at night we let him settle himself, but he couldn't do it last night.

I do think DH has some weird ideas though and he complains that I don't listen to his opinions on child rearing. Example: he says I give DS too much Calpol. The poor kid's teething and I only give it if I really think he needs it. Even then I only give him half what he could take in one day. I gave him some last night and he managed to get back to sleep

His complaint this morning was that if I didn't get him up before 8 then he wouldn't have his nap until 11.30-12 and then his whole day would be out of sync. I know that's rubbish, as DS will still have a mid morning nap (he's just gone down!). DH is out of the house from 8am to 7pm Monday to Friday, so I told him he doesn't get to decide mine and DS's daily routine based on what he sees at the weekend!