to let DS1 walk 3 miles each way to meet his friends?

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School is closed and no buses running. He wants to go and meet classmate to study

His school and friends are in a town three miles from here. He's done the walk before but not in knee deep snow. He's 16 and there's no way he's going to dress appropriately for the weather. Style over substance etc so he's likely to be wet through.

He and four friends who live fairly close to us are planning to meet up and do the walk. There's an outside possibility that the buses could be running for the return trip but no confirmed news yet. If buses can't run I'm not taking the car out so won;t be able to collect him.

So madness, or good for him to get out for some fresh air?

I’m not sure what the issue is? Why wouldn’t you? He’s 16 years old therefore im my opinion he’s more than old enough to do this if sensible.

He's not doing it on his own. Can't see an issue really. Up to him if he wants to get cold and wet! I would advise on clothing though. At least boots!

Warm clothes. Mobile charger for phone. and contingency if he has to stay over.

is it likely to get worse? If not I'd tell him to put dry clothes in a backpack and change when he gets there. Wrap up warm.

Of course it is fine. Try and get him to wear sensible clothes and foot wear or take some dry stuff with him. If he doesn't he will soon learn that being improperly dressed in the snow will make him wet, cold and miserable. It's a life lesson.

Yes I don’t see the issue as long as he has his phone and warm clothes he should be good to go... only two years till he’s technically an adult!

You couldn't have told me anything at 16. Would his friends come to yours instead of you're worried?

As said before, is it likely to get worse?

He's 16, still need your permission to get out and can't dress appropriately for the weather? You are babying him and I really don't think you're doing him a favour in life (unless there is a drip feed coming)

Unless you’ve not mentioned some kind of SN or physical impairment in your OP that is pertinent, YAB massively U by even giving this a second thought.

Depends what you mean by sensible Bairnsmum05. He's not going to play in the road but neither is he going to dress appropriately.

I've suggested his local friends come here but he's not keen , probably because there's a particular girl at the main meet up.

They've spent so long waiting/hoping for the buses to start running that by the time they get there it will be time to come back. My main concern is that he's cold and wet, 1.5 hours from home and I can't go out to get him

Tell him to take a backpack with dry clothes in, at least. Surely it's not knee deep for the full three miles?

My main concern is that he's cold and wet, 1.5 hours from home and I can't go out to get him

Then he'll have learnt a valuable lesson about preparation.

He's 16 OP, presumably fit and healthy, with friends. He may be miserable and uncomfortable but he won't die.

He's 16? Let the boy out to see his friends! At 16 I was walking that far home at 3am after a night out!

Christ at that age I was walking 2 miles each way twice a day to sort horses whenever it snowed and if my parents had suggested that they could stop me I would have assumed it was a joke. It's 3 miles. That's nothing. Why would it take him 1.5hours to walk?! If he gets cold or stuck that's on him, just let him know that you're not coming to rescue him and let him get on with his flirting.

Tell him spare of socks and trousers.
If he refuses then let him learn the lesson of appropriate clothing is the way to go.

I am sure one of the boys will lend him some trackie bottoms if needed.

Let him go, if you do nt he ll lose face and if he gets wet he’ll learn to dress properly fir the snow,

He's 16. He needs to learn to be indepedant before he is 18. It won't come magically with age so this might be a good lesson for him.