Me - wow, some people on this thread are really patronising and ssume they know best. I don't want to be like that
Valentina/Frieda/bumbler/tiggy - how dare you! We know best!! You don't know, your views and experiences are invalid because your kid is younger!! Come back to us in a few years! listening to policy makers and assisting with lessons and lesson planning and social events at school for many years and hearing what makes things difficult is utterly irrelevant and worthy only of a putdown to make me feel superior! "Of course I know best, I'm the parent"!! "Calm down "love/chick"!
Me - yep, you're exactly the sort of people I was talking about and would never ever want to be, cheers.
Yes that's largely correct, we were saying we know what's best for our children. You may have noticed that actually almost all of the teachers on the thread have agreed with us. Not all, but most. You then made some comments about your family that were nothing to do with snow days and about horrible parents. And let me tell you, teachers put up with some horrible shit. But none of their stories start with "this horrible woman thought a snow day would be an acceptable reason to take a child out of school once in three years".
So your stories of putting up decorations at school (again, yes, we've all done that. It's parenting) were bizarre and not at all what anyone was discussing., nor do they make you an expert You are the one who is refusing to consider that anyone here might have something useful to tell you on parenting. You've literally told a woman with 5 adult children she got it wrong.
the education system is full of well meaning and brilliant teachers however it is not up to the teachers to decide the infrastructure and rules that go along with it. most are sensible people who think parents can look after their own children perfectly well though (as they do, with their children). But teachers and schools can and do get it wrong. Many parents who home educate for example do so because their children have special needs and the school just doesn't know how to accommodate them, and yes, gets it wrong.
Your job as a parent will not be to defer to everything your child's teacher says but to listen, absorb and continue to parent. Mostly they will get it right but sometimes you will need to say actually, no that doesn't work for us. Because yes, as the parent you know whats best for them. Yyou will need to advocate them in hospitals, schools, and sometimes you need to be that parent.