Would you worry about these bruises on toddler?

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Found these on my 20 month old when she came back from spending 4 days away with her father.

Can anyone reassure me they are normal bruises because I have it stuck in my head they are fingerprints

We can't see them.

Sorry forgot he pic

For context and not to drip feed, there was domestic violence in the past and SS have been/are involved.

Doesn't matter about pics. Trust your gut instinct and go to GP tomorrow. Don't talk yourself out of it. If you're wrong, that's fine.get a gp opinion and go from there.

Can you describe them? Hard to say, otherwise.

Where on her body are they? My dd is 22 months and often has small fingerprint sized bruises on her legs (from knees down) that I know are innocent. They do make you do a double take though.

There are some free online safe guarding resources that you could take a look at. They will explain why some bruises and marks are red flags. I hope you are both OK.

I can't trust my gut as I've got it so wrong over the years excusing and minimising his behaviour. I still don't know which way is up, he's the master story teller and even my mum and SS warm to his charm.

The fact they're 3 in a row and on the fleshy part of her thigh makes me wonder, but then she is also extremely active and does climb and fall!
She also doesn't appear to be afraid of him.

You need to contact the allocated social worker. We are not qualified to determine if bruises are suspicious but the SW will have the clout to arrange a multi agency strategy meeting. Let the professional decide if there is cause for concern.

If you are concerned (particularly with a history of DV) then let SS know and pass the responsibility of deciding what happened to them.

If I'm wrong he will make my life hell. He's already trying to insinuate I'm a bad mother because my eldest DD who has Asperger's can be quite horrible to the younger 2 (who are his).
He's currently blaming my leaving him for the fact that DS is quite anxious. Says if we were together everyone would be happy again.

Ok so how old is DC? think about normal children bumping things bruising - knees/shins/hip bones for example.

Neck, face, buttocks, wrists not so common.

Think about size and shape of bruise and possible cause.

It really doesn't matter if you are wrong. Go to the gp, ask for a 2nd opinion, explain situation and that you are worried. Ex doesn't need to know you went if gp says no concerns.

To be honest it sounds like if you are right or wrong, he's making life hell.

Whatever you do don't sit on doubts. You'll regret it.

Sorry - normally boney parts of the body are injured in accidents- knees, shins, elbows chins etc. Fleshier parts of the body are more difficult to injure accidentally ( not impossible just more difficult). Seriously though you are not qualified to decide this. Contact the ASW ( ps I used to teach Signs and symptoms of abuse in children if that helps you take on board what I have said)?

The pic was taken on Sunday when they came back, have I left it too late? I didn't really think much of them at the time (must've thought something or wouldn't have taken a pic though), it was only while chatting to a friend I remembered today.

Size, location, shape are all things SWs will look at. I would talk to SS.

A friend of mine who works in the field said that any bruises on a child’s thigh would raise suspicion for a Health professional as kids don’t really tend to bruise there from natural bumps and scrapes. Don’t know exactly where the bruises are but it sounds like they could be on her thigh in which case I’d probably raise it.

Has the picture not shown up? I can see it on my app..

She's been at nursery all day Monday and until lunchtime today, and they've not mentioned/noticed them

Is there a bruise on the other side of her thigh (i.e. A thumb print to match the finger prints)? I'd expect to see that if he's grabbed her, but I'm no expert.

I'll try posting it again

Go to GP and ask for their opinion on the bruises and possible causes.

I will go to the GP tomorrow, was just hoping for a "oh my DC was always getting those kind of bruises from a shopping trolley/ car seat/ random piece of play equipment" type of answer.
Thanks all 🙁

Sorry I saw that they are on her thigh. Yes I would be very concerned if it were my child.